To not go to my friends wedding?

[louisaxx33]

Well it's my good friends friend but we have nights out together (with friend )
We never text or even chat,only meet up with friend.
Anyway she invited me to the night do of her wedding (probably to just be polite )
My good friend is going to the wedding and will be there all day.
The venue is near her house but I live nowhere near.
It's 55 mins drive (I don't drive )
I have nobody who can drive me there and back.
Checked taxi price and it's £55 each way
Checked trains and I would need to get 2 trains and then a 15 min taxi so still costing £40.
I would have to pay £50 for taxi home as no trains at midnight.
My good friend says it's not nice if I don't go but it's so out of the way for me
Aibu to not go?
I won't be missed
We aren't close
And she's probably only invited me out of duty

Evening Wedding Invitations are the devils work. Don't go, you're basically rentacrowd and your friend wants you there so she can dance with you.

Send a decline, and a card. I don't want to is good reason enough not to do most things.

"Hi Friends friend, I'm sorry but I wont be able to attend your evening reception, however lets celebrate together next time we meet up! Have a wonderful wedding, cant wait to see pictures! P.s I'll pass mutual friend your gift/card."

This is such a weird POV!

Of course people want to go to weddings??

If you don’t that’s fine, but it’s pretty weird that you’d get your knickers in a twist about only having an evening invite when you don’t want to go to any weddings anyway. Only on mumsnet!

OP- I wouldn’t go in this instance. Send a card and a small gift with your apologies.

Accidentally double posted!

This is your good friend wanting you there not necessarily the bride!

Can you good friend not accommodate you if they are so indignant that you go?

Can you ask your good friend if you can stay with her?

Decline but I am presuming you didn't first accept and now trying to get out of going ?

I could stay at good friends house but it's still costing me ££ in taxis
Also then all day at her house then another taxi to venue

Your friend sounds selfish and immature of course you shouldn't go if you can't or don't want to go it sounds a logistical expensive nightmare. Send a card you don't have to send a gift it isn't an obligation.

Thanks everyone

Not in a million years would I cough up over £100 in taxis to to a friends friend wedding. Or a friend, tbh. Big fat no.

No way. Just thank her and decline politely. Next time you see her give her a card a nice bottle of something bubbly.

Ignore good friend.

No, not everyone likes weddings. I find them really tedious and I only go if I feel obliged. But I can play the social butterfly so well that even my husband thinks I'm enjoying myself while I'm exhausted by all the people.
OP, do not go. She's not YOUR friend and you don't want to go. Find an excuse if it helps you feel better. A card and a small token gift and you can feel good about yourself.

Of course not EVERYONE likes weddings, that would be a ridiculous sweeping statement (and isn’t what I said), but the post I quoted said “I don’t think anyone actually wants to go to a wedding do they” which is equally ridiculous and sweeping.

Obviously some people don’t like weddings, and equally obviously some people do?

In any event is it super super weird to say you don’t like weddings but then also be annoyed you’ve only been invited to the evening. If you don’t like weddings then who cares?

Decline, no gift. Card if you feel like it.

If you feel you MUST give a gift, give her a bottle of champagne next time you see her. But I wouldn't. She's an acquaintance.

It is very clear from all your reasoning, that yo do not want to go. So, do that. I’d send a gift.

I think under the circumstances it’s reasonable to politely decline. Let her know ASAP as it’s easier for her planning. Consider sending her a card and a small gift.

It's an invitation not a summons. You don't have to go if you don't want to (can decline politely).