AIBU - Sleeping out?

[Sunshineoaktree]

Hi, after some opinions please!

When your kids were toddlers did they sleep out, and if so how often? My DD is 1, she hasn’t had a night away from us both (or 1 or the other) yet. My parents are desperate to have her overnight but I just feel like she’s too young to sleep out atm and I’ll miss her so much! I know I sound like a wet lettuce.

My partner is also massively against her sleeping out away from us (more than me). I slept out a lot as a kid so it’s normal for them, however my partner didn’t sleep out as a child much and his parents have never asked to have her overnight.

I don’t want it to become a thing but I’m starting to feel bad as my parents are now upset that they keep asking and I keep saying no. AIBU?

I mean mine have never had a sleepover. Not sure who would benefit when they are very young - they need ther parents.

I don't think you are being unreasonable - I would not have been comfortable with my children being away from us out of choice at that age, though it would not necessarily be a rational objection. I'm sure it depends on context - how used to your parents she is, how much they know about how to calm her down and get her to sleep etc, and it will probably be fine, but you aren't being unreasonable to not be comfortable with it.

First time our daughter was left with grandparents was the night of the birth of our second child - she was 3 but we would have done the same thing if she was 1 or 2.

Oh she’s very comfortable with them and sees them a lot, she’s been with them loads without us, just never overnight yet. They just seem to be taking it to heart as if I don’t think they can look after her overnight which is absolutely not the case

Yeah, we have had plenty days out etc but always as a family of 3, never just the two of us yet

My little boy was 8 weeks old when he first stayed overnight at his Nannas. He's slept out ever since but my sister and I did and also my husband spent lots of overnights at his grandparents from being little too. There is no wrong time and if you don't want them to sleep out until they're 10 then there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You don't sound like a wet lettuce at all.

I just don't see the point? It has no benefit from the child's point of view. Mine weren't great sleepers and I worried other people might not be as patient or even worse might not even wake up if they cried. I think your parents are being a little insensitive as well. It's not necessarily relaxing having someone look after your child if it just makes you anxious about them.

I think my siblings and I slept out from a few months old so I do understand why they feel that way. Haha thank you that makes me feel better! 🤣🥬

DD has always loved her sleep so I agree re. the benefit, it would just be the same as having her through the day 2 days in a row as she’d be asleep from 6-6 anyway!

Mine had his first sleepover with my in laws at 8 months while me and his dad went to a wedding party. I was so nervous about it because he’s not a great sleeper but i figured they can have a nap the next day, unlike us.

We’ve also had nights out and my mum has stayed in my house and put the baby to bed and then slept here for the night. I think if they’re offering then having a test run isn’t the worst idea in the world, you could have a nice meal or a fancy tea and a movie night then pick baby up early the next morning.