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College in September

11 replies

Clogdle · 16/07/2024 18:40

My daughter wants to go to college an hour away from where we live. It’s a great college and I am looking to relocate but because I have dogs finding it very difficult to find a rental.
I have said that if we can’t find somewhere to live or get to the bus route as that is also about 30 minutes from us that she will need to go to a closer college which is not as highly rated but in my opinion just as good.
AIBU?

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dahliadiva · 16/07/2024 18:46

My daughter goes to a college an hours train ride from home. I told her to crack on if she's willing to do it - don't ask me for a lift, I work full time! She's been doing it a year now no problem. Just let her get on with it if she's willing. No way I'd be uprooting everyone and moving.

RobinHood19 · 16/07/2024 18:48

She’ll probably be 16+? I’d let her plan how she’ll get there and back on time. Unless she’s expecting lifts from you - in which case YANBU.

Birch101 · 16/07/2024 19:03

As long as she can use public transport to get there no issue depending on her classes /course she might not even be in everyday

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 16/07/2024 19:39

This all seems a bit extreme!

An hours travelling to college is fairly standard in my rural part of the world.

grafittiartist · 16/07/2024 19:51

I did it in ten 90's. 2 buses. Wouldn't have done anything else- loved it.

EarthlyNightshade · 16/07/2024 19:54

Is the bus route a 30 minute walk from you?
Does she need to walk for half an hour, then bus half an hour?
If she is happy to do that every day, then I would say she could go for it.

I wouldn't move nearer unless there were other benefits. She will only be there for two years.

Needmorelego · 16/07/2024 19:56

An hour away for college is nothing.
Is there regular public transport?
Edit: Sorry she has to walk 30 minutes to the bus stop? Is it a safe and easy walk (ie not rural country lanes)?
An alternative is car share if other people are going to that college (obviously she can't drive yet but older students might or they have a parent driving).

Needmorelego · 16/07/2024 20:00

Moving house for a two year college is a bit extreme. She may hate the course and want to drop out after a term? What would you do then?
What happens after and she's working? Will you move for that too?

Clogdle · 16/07/2024 22:01

Thanks everyone just to clarify the coach stop to get her to the college is a half hour drive from here.
the college is an hours car journey without traffic so I would be travelling a minimum of 2 hours a day and a maximum of 4 hours.
due to the college being rural there are no trains.
she has anxiety so relies on me for a lot of emotional support
inalso work 2 jobs and a single parent so it can be tough.

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Needmorelego · 16/07/2024 22:27

@Clogdle going by your follow up I think she would have to go to the nearer college I'm afraid.

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 17/07/2024 06:07

Clogdle · 16/07/2024 22:01

Thanks everyone just to clarify the coach stop to get her to the college is a half hour drive from here.
the college is an hours car journey without traffic so I would be travelling a minimum of 2 hours a day and a maximum of 4 hours.
due to the college being rural there are no trains.
she has anxiety so relies on me for a lot of emotional support
inalso work 2 jobs and a single parent so it can be tough.

Which college is it?

Quite a few of the rural/agrictural type ones offer live in during the week for 16+ and due to the travelling times she would probably be eligible for a residential bursary or the residential support scheme depending on your circumstances.

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