To be a bit annoyed about not being reimbursed quickly?

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I’ve paid upfront for a trip with friends. I paid on Thursday last week so only 4 days ago. Everyone but one has paid me. It’s not a huge amount, around £60. I’m on holiday now and would like to tick it off my to do list. I reminded her yesterday just so I could relax and not have to think about it. She laughed and said she would pay it yesterday but she hasn’t. I actually feel extremely irritated as she did the same thing last time then cancelled leaving me to find someone else. She’s the wealthiest out of all my friends so really the money isn’t an issue. I’m not hard up so it feels embarrassing chasing her. Urghhhhh just pay up so I don’t have to think about it! 😡

AIBU?

It doesn't matter how much it is she should have paid you straight away, especially after you reminded her, very rude. Don't book stuff for her again

She’s an amazing, lovely, thoughtful person in every other way so it’s weird. I don’t get it.

Send a reminder - with a deadline.

I HATE people who do this - it’s so rude.

It’s just so annoying when I should be relaxing in the sun! I’m now fixating on it and feeling really irritated that it’s affecting my holiday. 😤

Spell it out for her.

Please make payment by X time on X day otherwise I will have to assume you no longer want to go and I will sell the ticket to someone else.

It’s actually accommodation and the annoying thing is if she wasn’t going we could have gone for cheaper smaller accommodation. There’s no one else we can ask as it’s quite a niche thing.

Bloody annoying.
Can you post on the group chat....
Thanks a b and c for paying me . Making it obvious that d hasn't paid..... social shame her. Also lesson learnt. Don't pay upfront for her again. Get her to book own ticket. Or not go. If she flakes its up to her to find replacement. Or next time say I'm booking for x. If you want to come please transfer funds by such a date. I will book for those who have paid me by then but unfortunately I can't buy without committed payment.

Since this has happened before, next time do not book until you have the money. Or set her the task of booking for everyone.

If she doesn't pay and leaves you in the lurch, then she doesn't get invited to anything else or she pays and you owe her. No point in ruining your holiday.

She's not really though is she? Doesn't pay when she should, let you down last time....

Thanks all. I would be mortified to be chased in this. She just did a little laugh emoji. It’s really not like her in any other way. But yes she’ll need to pay. I’ll ask her if she still wants to come or we can book the cheaper accommodation if not. I thought last time was an aberration as she’s really not like this in any other respect. Normally an incredibly generous, kind and sensitive person!

Ask her to pay in the group chat - say that she is the only one who hasn’t. She should be embarrassed, not you! The laughing face is so so cheeky.

Message her saying you didn't get the payment yesterday.

She thinks because she has money that she shouldn't be chased.

I think she knows it’s not a lot of money to me or her. But it’s the admin and the brain space. The to do list. 😤

Pretend you are concerned the payment might have gone astray as you didn’t receive it and ask her to screenshot payment.
And obviously don’t ever pay for anything for her again.

She definitely wouldn’t pretend she’d paid. It’s more just it’s no big deal to her. It’s strange as she’s a supremely organised, capable person and I thought she would get this. Possibly she’s having second thoughts about it. She can be a bit anxious about stuff for various reasons. That’s why I want to tread lightly. I’m a nuclear bomb kind of person and don’t want to blow up this friendship.

Tbh, I wouldn't be chasing a friend after four days for an amount of money that isn't significant to both of us.

I know. It’s just the admin to be honest. And it’s not completely insignificant at £60. I didn’t chase her last time then she pulled out without paying. Which is why I’m trying to get it all sorted early on this time.

Did she pay last time?

She sounds like a debt dodging dick.

So people shouldn't have to pay what they owe? whyever not?

Could you collect the money before booking next time, like once I have all your funds in I'll book the room?

Would you also be lax in paying?

You have just reminded me that I owe a friend £20 in a very similar situation. I keep meaning to do it but postponing it due to annoying banking app.

The real reason is that I’ve just had a devastating bereavement and have no emotional bandwidth whatsoever. I think she will understand when I explain. Of course I will pay her. I also have a shit load of other complex admin to do.

Just offering an alternative viewpoint

Yup, that's exactly what I said.

I will book for those who have paid me by then but unfortunately I can't buy without committed payment.

Key phrase! I always use something similar. The flakes soon find out you meant it when there's no place for them.