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child wee'd on rug

40 replies

wurstcase · 16/07/2024 09:46

I feel really bad now. I bumped into a colleague who was with her 2 year old and asked her in for a cup of tea. found a couple of toys from my almost grown up kids and her child sat on my (posh wool rug playing with them while we had tea. Pool then formed and it was clear that child had done a rather large wee. Mother was apologetic and said that she lets them go without a nappy but not potty trained yet. I mopped it up and later scrubbed etc, unfortunately you can still see a circle in the geometric pattern which is a different colour. Is wool and natural dye and honestly not sure it will come out. It does not look terrible but you can see it and it is in the centre of the room. Saw her today and she said, oh I hope it came out of the carpet OK. In the past I would just lie to be nice and say, yes it did, no worries, but these days I am a bit more honest so I said, not completely actually but it's not a big deal. She looked worried and apologised again and offered to replace the carpet. Of course I said no, but now I feel really mean and guilty for being honest about it and not just telling the white lie. On the one hand I think she should have been a bit more careful and on the other hand I don't want to be precious about it as of course 2 year olds make a mess, it is not the kid's fault. Obviously there is not much to be done now other than neither of us ever mentions it again, but AIBU to be slightly pissed off?

OP posts:
FateReset · 16/07/2024 12:20

It's actually a rug made up of circles so actually if someone wee d in all the circles it would look the same :):)

🤣

Don't worry about it, at least you said it's nearly come out!

auntpanty · 16/07/2024 12:31

RedHelenB · 16/07/2024 09:48

Wee should have blotted up without leaving a mark.

Not always unfortunately

maudelovesharold · 16/07/2024 12:37

It's actually a rug made up of circles so actually if someone wee d in all the circles it would look the same :):)

Invite her and her toddler back for numerous coffees and sit the child in a different circle every time!

TwilightAb · 16/07/2024 12:42

modgepodge · 16/07/2024 10:09

Honestly who lets their child who isn’t potty trained yet go in someone else’s house nappy free 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ she should be mortified, I would be. She should definitely be offering to pay for cleaning or replacing.

Read it again, she has offered to replace and the OP declined.

jannier · 16/07/2024 13:08

What parent just leaves a nappy off but isn't potty training then goes out letting child wee everywhere? Is this some new level of nuttery? I'd have billed her.

TheStateOfTheArt · 16/07/2024 13:11

wurstcase · 16/07/2024 11:58

yes you're right @FateReset , I think I should have either kindly lied or accepted her offer at least of having it cleaned. Instead I was just about strong enough to be slightly honest without having the guts to follow it through. Sigh.

It's actually a rug made up of circles so actually if someone wee d in all the circles it would look the same :):)

No, she needed to know that letting her child wee on your rug caused damage. Hopefully she will now think twice about letting her child do that in people’s homes. If you’d lied, she wouldn’t know and would definitely carry on regardless. You did the right thing.

WaltzingWaters · 16/07/2024 13:26

You were right to be honest, but yes, you should have asked her to pay for the cleaning bill. Perhaps different if her child were potty trained but had an unexpected accident. But to allow your child who isn’t potty trained to be nappy-free in somebody else’s home is just rude, ridiculous, selfish and downright stupid!
We’ve recently gone through potty training with my 2yo and he’s pretty much consistent now unless really tired, but I’m always still so nervous and therefore extra cautious about ensuring he goes to the potty fairly regularly if we’re at someone else’s home. We didn’t go to anybody else’s home and stuck with outdoor meet-ups until I felt confident he was doing well with it all.

JollyGreenSnake · 16/07/2024 13:49

Easier to say in hindsight, but could you not have encouraged the 2yo to sit somewhere besides the posh wool rug??? Your own kids have heard the message not to spill anything on it, yet you were happy to let a toddler sit and play on it???

Awkward that you acknowledged the residual stain without accepting anything from her. And she should have said outright that the child is not yet fully toilet-trained/not in nappy!

yepandagain · 16/07/2024 14:38

auntpanty · 16/07/2024 12:31

Not always unfortunately

presumably it was blotted almost immediately though
i can’t understand how it’s stained tbh

HcbSS · 16/07/2024 14:41

She is disgusting for allowing it to happen, but OP is guilty for making light of it and not making her pay for it when the replacement was offered.

VenusClapTrap · 16/07/2024 15:00

You’re not unreasonable to be annoyed. And I would have done exactly the same as you - been honest, but not accepted payment/replacement.

I had a very similar situation actually, when my nephew weed on my rug and his parents blamed my guinea pigs. In the end I binned the rug and got in a French polisher to restore the damaged wooden floor underneath. It wasn’t a cheap fix but in the interests of family harmony I chose to let it go.

wurstcase · 16/07/2024 22:36

@VenusClapTrap they blamed it on the guinea pigs? That is really hilarious!

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RabbitsEatPancakes · 23/11/2024 10:56

Why would she let an untrained toddler out without a baby?

She's just teaching them it's ok to piss your pants.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 23/11/2024 10:58

I would offer to replace if my toddler did it. But because I know I'd do this I also wouldn't
Let a toddler without a nappy on sit on anything expensive looking or soft furnishings!

MrsSkylerWhite · 23/11/2024 11:00

Tabby. What sort of idiot lets their untrained child sit on a nice rug in someone else’s house with no nappy?

Have you tried a Rug Doctor.

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