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How to relax without working?

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StevieChicks · 16/07/2024 08:03

I think work has been a handy distraction for me. I've worked since my children were born. I wake up and start and then make their breakfast, do the school run, come home and work until 7pm.
I log on at weekends. It helps me feel less anxious just knowing that nothing is going on. I don't even have a particular high up role.
Reflecting on this, I do it as I am good at my job. It boosts my self esteem. There's also the adrenaline hit as it's fast paced. I'm not sure I'm a very good mum. I'm not sure I'm a good friend and I was a rubbish wife, hence the split. I've not been good at many things in my life. But work comes natural, putting in hours, being productive. I know it's not healthy.
Now I'm not working for a month and a half as I'm between roles. I feel anxious and lacking in purpose. It's such an adjustment. I love my children and I love spending time with them. I guess I feel that I demonstrate that love through working hard to provide them with a good life.
It's day one and I feel so lost.

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RishiIsACuntWaffle · 16/07/2024 08:29

Do some nice things!

Cinocino · 16/07/2024 08:37

I think there something deep rooted things in many of us that link productivity to value. Probably capitalist conditioning.
However when you really think of it the value should come from the actual moments of joy in our life, being present when playing with our children, walking home from school slowly and chatting about everything around us etc

Try to view a whole 6 weeks off work as a chance to reset and slow down. There is value in slowing down and appreciating the life you have.
Working until 7pm every day in the week and again on the weekends isn’t great for your family life.
Do your kids just have to entertain themselves after school and then you work until bedtime?

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