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. . . for NOT wanting to go skiing?

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BahNotSomethingElseNow · 15/07/2024 19:31

Due to a medical condition, I've lost a significant portion of my vision in the last few years. I'm now unable to drive and the sight loss has affected my life in many ways, both physically and emotionally.

I used to be a great skier and it was something DH and I bonded over. We now have a 4-year-old and a 1-year-old. DH wants us to go on a skiing holiday in February and I really, really don't want to. First of all, I very much doubt bringing a baby on a skiing holiday is going to be fun for anyone, and secondly, there's no way I'm going to be able to ski. So yes, even with ski school for the older child and even if there's a baby club, we'd be spending at least a couple of thousand pounds on a holiday that at least two of us won't enjoy/appreciate at all.

I've suggested that we hold off for a couple of years until both children can attend ski school, and then it would be much more worthwhile, but DH is adamant we should go this season. AIBU to insist we wait?

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modgepodge · 15/07/2024 19:32

I can’t see why you’d want to go ever to be honest?? I’d suggest waiting until the kids are a lot older then your husband can take them by himself and you go lay on a beach or something instead!! How selfish of him to want you to go on a holiday specifically to do an activity you can’t do!!

MissUltraViolet · 15/07/2024 19:34

Sounds like a stupid idea for you and the younger child.

Could DH go with the older child and you and baby do something you'd enjoy more?

Newdoggointhehouse · 15/07/2024 19:40

It doesn’t seem at all practical yet at the ages your children are.

For yourself, and only if you’d like to go back there, have you looked at accessible skiing options for the future?

I know of a few people with varying degrees of visual impairments that enjoy skiing with varying levels of support and varying degrees of ability - from beginner to very advanced. There is extra cost to this but may be an option down the line?

Sunnydiary · 15/07/2024 19:42

YANBU.

DH is being selfish here. Sit down and see if you come up with a holiday you can both enjoy, otherwise it’s just unfair.

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BahNotSomethingElseNow · 15/07/2024 19:48

Playing devils advocate, the 4-year old would love it. And that's what is making me think that we should go - is it fair to deprive her of this for the next 2-3 years, until the baby is old enough to learn too? DH is keen to get them on skis early and, a few years ago, I would have felt the same. Also, it's only a week. Maybe I should just suck it up.

As for accessible skiing, it's something that I've not looked in to at all, thank you for the suggestion!

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TrickyD · 02/01/2025 14:04

Be a little wary of taking the baby to a high resort. On one of our family ski trips to Les Arcs 2000 our grandson developed a bad cough. The local doctor blamed the altitude. He and his DM had to transfer to accommodation at a lower level. Travel insurance paid for all of that. Worth bearing in mind.

neverbeenskiing · 02/01/2025 14:15

Could DH take the 4 year old and you stay home with the baby?

It's a difficult one. YANBU at all for not wanting to ski, but he is also NBU for not wanting to give up a hobby he has loved and wanting to share it with his DC.

biscuitsandbooks · 02/01/2025 14:16

I would go, put the 4yo in ski school and you and the baby can have a lazy week, maybe get the lift up to meet DH for lunch somewhere on the tops, enjoy the pool or something instead?

DreadPirateRobots · 02/01/2025 14:20

I would say your DH goes with the 4yo if you don't want to go in your own right at the moment. It's a lot of extra money for you and the baby if you won't be skiing at all.

Whatsitreallylike · 02/01/2025 14:42

I’m in a similar’ish position this year. Have a 2 year old and I’m pregnant so won’t be able to ski. But DH LOVES skiing and hasn’t been for a few years, lots of family are going so we’ve compromised. He’ll ski with family in the mornings whilst we taboggin/swim/insert activity here… and then as a family we will do activities in the afternoon like visiting thermal spas and monasteries. I’ll make the most of it but wouldn’t if it was going to be our only holiday.

If this trip won’t ‘take away’ from other experiences or holidays then I’d have a look and see if you could go somewhere where you get a bit of everything

Pninnette · 02/01/2025 14:45

BahNotSomethingElseNow · 15/07/2024 19:48

Playing devils advocate, the 4-year old would love it. And that's what is making me think that we should go - is it fair to deprive her of this for the next 2-3 years, until the baby is old enough to learn too? DH is keen to get them on skis early and, a few years ago, I would have felt the same. Also, it's only a week. Maybe I should just suck it up.

As for accessible skiing, it's something that I've not looked in to at all, thank you for the suggestion!

So let DH take the 4 year old. I hate skiing, so DH takes DS and I go to Florence or Madrid for a bit of solo art.

Skiptogetfit · 02/01/2025 14:46

Sounds as though your other half is expecting to go skiing by himself while you look after the baby. Talk about a rubbish holiday!

Mymanyellow · 02/01/2025 14:50

I wouldn’t go skiing if you paid me. So I don’t think you’re being unreasonable in the slightest.
Maybe go and let dh take the 4 year old out. You and youngest could do your own thing. I don’t t even know if this is feasible.

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