AIBU for not having a 1 year old party

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Basically as above, my DD turns 1 next week. Two cousins have parties each day of the weekend. I hadn't made any plans and still havent. My house really needs decorated so not comfortable inviting family round for a tea party and I don't really have spare cash to throw a party in a hired place and I'm thinking what's the point when she won't know anything about it.

A few people have asked what are the plans.
My husband thinks noone will bother buying her gift or acknowledge or remember her birthday if there is no party. I don't care about this. I just cant be bothered with the hassle when as i mentioned she wont know any different aibu?

Could you have a little birthday picnic in a park in your area? Or ask your mother if you can host a birthday at her place as it is nicer than yours?
Usually family doesn't care if your house is decorated recently, they probably have been to your place before and presumably didn't shun you!

Stick a candle in a cake at tea time and take a photo. Done.

Basically this.

Baby is 1 years old and won’t remember it. If you don’t want to do a party or have people over then don’t. Have an intimate at home celebration with a cake some balloons and take a few nice photos for the photo album.

We did have close family and friends over a couple of days after DS’s first birthday, just done some buffet bits and had a cake. Nothing crazy.

Sounds like DH would like to do something though so I’d take his feelings into consideration. Can you compromise on a family picnic at a local park?

For me, I wanted to do a family birthday party as an accuse to get everyone together as we don't see extended family often so it was nice to have a reason that wasn't a funeral.

OP, how refreshing to read. If only everyone else thought similar. Photo taken on your DDs birthday with or without a cake seems ideal.

Please also avoid supporting anything ridiculous as your DD gets older. Things such as nursery or primary school graduations, for example.

Baby aged 1 won't care. Candle in cake and photo. Nothing else needed.

Yeah, 1 year old won't know or care. Get a cake and maybe have grandparents or closest family round to share it. But no party requited.

If you don’t want to do a party then don’t, equally there is absolutely nothing wrong with a celebration, large or small, for your baby’s first year of life.

I can’t get on board with people who moan and complain about other people celebrating things in their lives. It’s the height of misery.

We made a banana cake for my LO for first birthday, and bought a few little toys, didn’t have a party, he didn’t know what planet he was on, I was fecking knackered from him constantly screaming since he came out of the womb…honestly I don’t see the point of a big do for a one year old. Take a few nice photos. You do right.

She's a baby, she doesn't need a party.

My husband thinks noone will bother buying her gift or acknowledge or remember her birthday if there is no party.

Well the baby's mum and dad will 🤷‍♀️

If you want to mark the occasion, sit and go through her photos together and any cards you were given when she was born.

Listen to this person.

I would rather sit on a cactus than host a party at home, especially for a kid to young to remember it.