How much do you earn and how much did you spend on wedding?

[Rehne]

Joint income = £160k (but London)
Ages: 29 and 33
Wedding cost: £25k (5k from bride’s parents)
2023

Just curious. So many of the quotes we had were crazy. And obviously Dh and I doing okay financially. Who is spending all this money given the average income?

Joint income £200k-ish, live in East Anglia
Wedding was £12k, I received £5k from my parents
Summer 2023

When we married - 8 years ago ;

I was working part time and studying , so maybe £22k total

Husband about £40k

we spent about £6k in total

100k joint income, we spent £800 on a wedding. 😆3 guests + 2 witnesses. Never been happier.

Married 28 years ago, I had just graduated and wasn’t working, DH earned 17k. Wedding cost around £4700 including the rings, I didn’t have a hen do, stag do was about £50 for a night out.
My PIL and my DM both gave us £1000 towards it and my sibling gave us £500 towards our honeymoon.
Honeymoon was around £1300.

Married 19 years ago. Joint salary of about 60K back then.

We got married abroad and had a party in the village hall when we got home. All in it came to about 6k, including honeymoon. We had spent all our savings buying our 1st house and didn't have much to put aside for a wedding. So did it on a tight budget.

Married 2021
Joint income at the time = 150k
Ages: 36 and 40
Wedding cost: 2k (10k if including cost of family attending which we paid for)

Full disclosure I am Asian so this was deemed a "small wedding". I find the usual amount spent on British Asian weddings obscene.

This thread is pretty biased, when you look at how few people actually earn 100k plus today! 😆

Our wedding excluding rings and honeymoon was probably 25-30k. The bulk of that was because of a large family and 2/3 of it were paid by parents. Think we earned 80k ish then.

1994
Hen and stag do were in local restaurant and pub
Register office- 12 people
£60K combined salary - equivalent to £125K now I think
£80 dress
£1200 reception lunch in lovely hotel
No photographer
No cake
Can't remember how much the rings were, but not silly.
No honeymoon- moved into a new house a week later

Married in 2018.
Joint income (at the time) around 40k.
Parents contributed zero.
Total cost around £500.

more than a decade ago

Joint income €250
Wedding €60+k not including honeymoon
Married 2021

Niece married 2019. Joint income around £40k. Mid twenties and had just bought first home.

50-60ish day guests, local church, local-ish hotel but put on buses from/back to local town. Cost around £12k including hen do, honeymoon, buses.

Niece and her dh were prepared to pay for their own budget wedding, but nieces mum and dad (separated) generously contributed £5k each.

So how then is the average couple earning £38k spending £20k??

I think it’s pretty normal to have help

£25k was a squeeze for comfortable-ish dh and I. I’m assuming I’m tight.

I’m not sure why saving 25k was a squeeze on your income.

£100k joint. Spent £35k on wedding (excluding honeymoon)

Married in 2013 we are in the U.K.

his income: around £30k
my income: around £25k
total expenditure was around £5k give or take, including a 2 week all inclusive honeymoon in Italy.
only contributions were from parents who wanted a certain thing - for example my mum wanted me to have real fresh flowers (I was fine with fake/button bouquet or even a book bouquet) so she paid for them, because she wanted them. My mother in law wanted a certain “look” to the tables so she paid for the venue to dress them all in matching table cloths and seat covers: I was quite happy with a more quirky, vintage feel to the scrubbed wooden tables and chairs they had but I didn’t object, so she paid for the covers because she wanted them.
best advice - get a package and then see if you can tweak/tailor it to your wants and needs. Example - I don’t drink so free champagne for the bride and groom all night was transformed into 4 bottles of wine on each table, the food choices weren’t very filling so I persuaded them to add more veggies, my husband has a specific memory associated with a special type of alcohol so we bought that in barrels and rather than pay corkage they let us use it for toasting (we kept a few bottles of wine back from the tables for toasting too)

Wow! How rude.

Anyone spending over 75p on their wedding, please report back to @Lovesgotme for judgement.

Joint income £75k
Wedding cost £3k (we eloped but to a castle, told everyone afterwards). Who needs to spend tens of thousands?!!

We spent 25k 18 years ago. Wouldn't do it again.

Joint income - £85k
Married 2023
Wedding cost - £300

We had the ceremony in Wales while on holiday with our two friends and our kids. Loved it - so relaxed.

Ours cost about £20k 17 years ago, but our parents paid for most of the costs, which was mostly catering for around 180 guests - we're Jewish and I didn't realise until we started planning that this is unusual in this day and age! It's not that we had no non-Jewish friends (quite the opposite in my case) I just didn't know anyone who'd got married and hadn't given it much thought until we were into the planning.

Joint income - 6 figures.

Wedding cost last time we added up known costs - £55,000 (everything apart from flowers, drinks, honeymoon and stag and hens hadn’t been booked yet)

Then Covid happened and actual cost ended up being £5,000!

Joint income - 80k
Wedding cost - 1k

We got married at my family home. We both didn't want to wait to get married so we decided it was the best decision and it was.

My parents would have paid for the wedding if we did have one. My siblings weddings have cost them 25-50k

Spent very little. Can't remember cost of rings. Register office - not very much at all. 11 family/friends. Friends put on a simple ham salad lunch. Wedding cake - square fruit and iced. Nothing elaborate. Meal for all of us in a restaurant in the evening - Dad paid and afterwards said it was less than he expected. Wore clothes we already had. No flowers or music.
An expensive wedding doesn't guarantee a perfect marriage. An inexpensive wedding doesn't mean a poor marrige. We celebrated our Golden Wedding Anniversary a few months ago.

Joint income when we married was £45k and wedding cost around £500