Did I do the right thing?

[stuffnthangs]

I'm 43. I have noticed over the last few months that almost everyone in my life either takes a few days to get back to my messages, or don't reply at all, People Leave me on read even if I ask a question etc, I know everyone is different and responds in their own time but since thinking about it I have noticed it a lot more. I will give a few examples..

I was giving my MacBook Air to a friend of 23 years, He lives a while away so I have to send it, I'm not asking anything for it, giving it to him for free, I messaged him a week ago to ask when the best time to send it is and he left me on read.

Someone I have been seeing/dating for over a year, Constant messages of 'Sorry I didn't get back to you, my phone was charging upstairs' (for three days)

We had plans last Monday, I messaged him Monday morning to confirm something and he didn't even read it, Didn't hear from him, missed what we were supposed to be doing on Monday, he messaged me on Friday to say 'Sorry about Monday I was called into work'

Basically the above on repeat. With everyone.

So, tonight I deleted half my contacts. I didn't tell anyone beforehand.

AIBU?

I get pissed off too with being ignored. I've got a friend who takes on average 2 weeks to reply to whatsapps so I've ignored her last one when I normally reply straight away

No you’ve done the right thing. However I don’t think it’s personal to you. I’m rubbish at replying. I don’t use my phone much and then a week later I remember to reply. However I see my friends in person at hobbies etc so it doesn’t matter at all I don’t reply as I see them in person. If your relationships rely on messaging then yeah block and move on as it’s not reciprocated.

You should be giving your head a serious wobble about the person that you have been seeing for a year....

Dump the flaky boyfriend.

People are inundated with technology, social media. Covid lockdowns caused a huge shift I think as well.

Have you deleted the two people you've given as examples?

Personally I'd stop dating the person you are dating if he can't be bothered to reply in time to confirm/cancel an arrangement.

I wouldn't give away an expensive device to someone who doesn't have the politeness to reply.

Half your contacts though? - seems a bit rash - what if you need to ask them something important in the future?

I think a lot of people find themselves in your shoes OP. There just doesn't seem to be much courtesy these days, and because we are able to see that people have read what we send, we naturally expect them to reply a.s.a.p. as it's just good manners, whereas in the days before computers, mobiles, etc. when we only had letters, or landlines, people would either answer the phone or not, and you could never be sure that they'd actually received a letter, so you couldn't prove that they'd ignored you, know you know, and realise how flaky some people are. Like you, if people can't be bothered to treat me, in the way I treat them, then sod 'em, I've got better things to do with my time, and they're simply not worth worrying about.

Yanbu and I would be telling macbook man he ain't getting the macbook. It's rude and ignorant to ignore messages. OK as a one off but not constantly. I delete people who do that. If they don't wanna talk to me it's fine they can sod off.

You can easily resolve these two you've highlighted.

Tell both to bog off and block.

Don't be afraid of removing twats from your life

I hope MacBook Wanker and Shit Boyfriend are on the list of the purged?