to change the day of DD's swimming lesson to avoid another child?

[MamaG]

SAid child is almost 4 and is very aggressive towards my DS (just 4)

DS isn't a wuss, just a normal small boy, but this lad is horrid to him! They'll play nicely for a while then he gets carried away and really hurt DS today - he kicked him on the leg (unprovoked, I was there) and there is a big raised bruise tonight, his Mum is a bit of a lettuce and she just weakly says "oh don't do that", then puts him a naughty chair for 10 seconds

10 minutes later he did it again, then kicked DS in the tummy! I'm fucking fucked off with it. I don't want to offend other Mum by continuing to go on teh same day and avoiding her, so I've just changed the day of DD's lesson . I had a bit of a hissy fit when he kicked DS the 2nd and 3rd time (within seconds of each other) saying I didn't want them to play together. Other mum said "oh I'll puyt him on the naughty chair" and I hissed "it doesn't work"

DD doesn't mind at all, I just couldn't face the awkward situations.

So, AIBU, or AIBP/H (am i being pregnant/hormonal)?

No, YANBU at all. It's very important that your DS's swimming lesson is enjoyable, and this little wretch may spoil the whole idea of swimming for him for years!

oh GOD IABU

sorry BS, its DD that has the lesson, DS watches with me!

i think ure doing whats best!

YANBU at all

Still not unreasonable, why shouldn't you all be able to have a nice time at DD's lesson? You have my blessing even if no-one else agrees!

hurrah thanks!

MrsWeasley I'm so glad I've "seen" you - can you go to the quiche book club thread please?

No YANBUOPAH!!!

as long as DD doesn't mind then I think you are doing the right thing.

But then I would do anything to avoid confrontation.....

Stand up for yourself and your children - tell this woman her kids behaviour is unacceptable and you will not tolerate her child physically attacking yours!

I will come and do it for you if you want - I am good at confrontation!

Turkey, what does OPAH stand for??

But no, you are not being unreasonable in teh slightest.
In fact, I changed my dd's swimming lessons to avoid another mum. Our dd's were in the same group and this woman was soooo loud, soooo boastful about her dd's swimming ability, and just sooo annoying that there was no way on this earth I was going to spend 20 minutes every week sitting in the same small viewing gallery with her.
And she was not even kicking me!

or pregnant and hormonal? I'm just guessing that OPAH means. YANBU! xxx

yes its YANBU or pregnant and hormonal!

Thanks Turkey

Are you paying for these lessons? If they're organised by a company/local authority, then the teacher/coach has duty of care. Speak to them. They shouldn't be allowing this to happen.

It is not up to teacher/coach to control a spectator child, it is up to the childs moronic, wimpy, wet lettuce of a mum to say to her son "stop hitting/punching/kicking that other child".

YANBU.

I wouldnt change the lesson tbh. I would speak to the parent very seriously and if she really wasnt going to stop it happening I would be open about therefore not sitting anywhere near her and her child.

I think you've been very restrained mg! How did you not get the vicious brat by the ankles and give him a good dunking? (OK, I am very pregnant and hormonal)!

I would have told the child off myself though by 2nd or 3rd kick.

Have changed day

Only problem is, horrid child aside I liked the Mum and had been to her house recently for lunch! I thought I'd found a new mate but hey ho

I am with theduchess on this I would have been tempted to give the little sod a free swimming lesson and chuck him in but then Im also pregnant and hormonal

You are so not being unreasonable! Your poor DS can do without being kicked, and if the mother won't control her little darling, you don't have a whole heap of options.

I'm sorry you had to do that, though, especially as you liked the min-thug's Mum.

I agree with Twinkie1 on this.

If I saw it happening a 2nd and 3rd time I would have told the child off myself, especially if I knew the mother didnt do anything. I would have also taught my child what they could do in return if someone hurt them.

But thats just me, maybe it is better to change the day, but I don;t feel why my life should be disrupted to fit around some little shit!