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Original poster

To think my HOD is being a bit of a jobsworth?

88 replies

anniebolen · 14/07/2024 15:19

Hello,
I'll start with some context, I am a teacher, currently I work 2.5 days a week through a job share, my co-teacher and I get on really well and have been working together for years. We both have 2 children each and our children are the same ages (both have 4 and 1/almost 1 year olds). This year we are both coming back from maternity leave. My co-teacher works Monday, Wednesday morning and Friday, I do Tuesday, Wednesday afternoon and Friday.
This year we both have children starting school, her DD will start on the same Monday as we go back to work and my DS will start the Tuesday. Now obviously this means that if we both work our normal days we will miss our children's first day of school. We decided to jointly ask our head of department if he would mind us swapping the first 2 lessons each day so we can go to our children's first day of school. We have seen our timetable, we don't have Y7 in either slot and as we teach all our classes together it won't make any real difference. The HOD started last year while we were both on maternity leave, however our previous HOD was happy for us to sort between ourselves any swaps, the only time we utilised this was when our children's respective nursery Christmas plays fell on the opposite days.
I have asked why he has said no and he made it clear he doesn't want to mess with the timetable while everyone is settling.
AIBU to think he is being a bit of a jobsworth? Should I challenge him again or accept that I'll miss DS's first day of school and that is part of the parcel of being a teacher?

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itistooeasy · 14/07/2024 15:23

sounds sensible to me

it just doesn’t suit you and your friend

itistooeasy · 14/07/2024 15:25

so on the first day

your usual class will have a sub teacher

no, he’s 100% correct

Original poster
anniebolen · 14/07/2024 15:26

itistooeasy · 14/07/2024 15:25

so on the first day

your usual class will have a sub teacher

no, he’s 100% correct

No, not a substitute, the other teacher, who has them for 2/4 lessons a week anyway?

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itistooeasy · 14/07/2024 15:27

anniebolen · 14/07/2024 15:26

No, not a substitute, the other teacher, who has them for 2/4 lessons a week anyway?

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subbing in for your usual spot

itistooeasy · 14/07/2024 15:28

i don’t think he’s being unreasonable
and he is not going to change his mind
so…. you need to accept and move on

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anniebolen · 14/07/2024 15:30

itistooeasy · 14/07/2024 15:27

subbing in for your usual spot

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I'm not sure why that is relevant?
On the Monday it is a Y8 group, so we will not be starting any real work, just getting to know you activities which either of us can do.
Tuesday is the same Y8 group and some Y10s who will have been in on the Monday and already know both of us.
Why does it matter which one leads those early lessons where no real work is getting done anyway?

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NewDay00 · 14/07/2024 15:31

Yeah he's being a jobsworth. It literally makes no difference, he's just being awkward.

Bluevelvetsofa · 14/07/2024 15:45

I think he’s being awkward, but I think you’ll have to suck it up too.

MistressIggi · 14/07/2024 16:02

Apply (both of you) for the time off unpaid.
your suggestion seems very sensible but if they are going to ignore it...
Ive been allowed time for each of my dc starting school - not the whole day but the drop off

ricecrispiecakes · 14/07/2024 16:03

It's fine - he's being ridiculous!

Hatty65 · 14/07/2024 16:06

I'm a HoD and I'd have had no problem with you swapping for one day in these circumstances.

Sadly, one of the things about teaching is you often have to suck up this kind of thing and miss your own DCs stuff. He's a bit jobsworth, but it's his call and there's not much you can do about it.

LoveBluey · 14/07/2024 16:07

Absolutely ridiculous, you've proposed a good solution with minimal impact on your classes while allowing you to be there for an important day for your own children.

A bit of flexibility in cases like this breeds good will whereas he has bred resentment.

I'd be tempted to both phone in sick on your mornings so they have no cover at all (I probably wouldn't actually do this but I would be angry he's saying no to a perfectly reasonable proposal)

Nobodyknowsitall5 · 14/07/2024 16:08

He is a jobsworth and so is itstoeasy.

swashbucklecheer · 14/07/2024 16:09

This would be the type of request that would go to our Principal for authorisation and it would not be a problem. In fact he'd probably say just take the morning off. This is one of the reasons I like my school and the staff are very loyal to it.

Loopytiles · 14/07/2024 16:09

Wondering if his concern is that you’d be able to do things that part time colleagues with fixed days & full time colleagues wouldn’t, & that they could seek similar flexibility leading to headaches.

cansu · 14/07/2024 16:11

He is very unreasonable. You would probably have been better to ask the head. I would now however make a request for unpaid leave.

itsgettingweird · 14/07/2024 16:12

I agree he's being a job worth.

I'm also wondering if he has children? It maybe that he's seeing this purely from a operational stand point (not that I can see operationally it's an issue tbh) rather from your standpoint of parenting which doesn't operationally affect anything?

I've the last 2 days off of term (unpaid) and I'm the only person who does my role. I'm taking ds to compete at a British comp.

But my school know if they want to keep me (they do!) they need to accommodate me.

Onelifeonly · 14/07/2024 16:16

Yes he is being totally unreasonable. As a teacher, albeit in primary, I can see this won't matter at all.

LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand · 14/07/2024 16:21

Well if he insists, he's just lost two teachers good will, hasn't he? So no going above and beyond for him. Obviously you do your job, but don't offer any support to him. If he asks you to swap for some reason, you'd be quite right to say no. I had one of those and he was a nightmare

LividLoved · 14/07/2024 16:25

Besides the point, but never known secondary to do "job share" like this.

Only primary.

Usually pt secondary just have their own timetables on certain days!

(YANBU. Just do it, it's not like you need other cover)

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anniebolen · 14/07/2024 16:43

LividLoved · 14/07/2024 16:25

Besides the point, but never known secondary to do "job share" like this.

Only primary.

Usually pt secondary just have their own timetables on certain days!

(YANBU. Just do it, it's not like you need other cover)

You're right, it really isn't common. We are a private school so I'm not sure if that makes the difference here, but it was pure coincidence that we wanted the exact opposite hours. I was parttime before my first baby and I shared my classes with several other teachers, It is so much better sharing with one teacher, also having the same classroom etc. It is better for the kids and for us - It will only last as long as we are happy working opposite hours though!

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HaPPy8 · 14/07/2024 16:48

Is it your first day back from maternity leave? That might be something to do with it?

AloeVerity · 14/07/2024 16:49

Well - shot himself in the foot there, didn’t he? No more goodwill from either of you, ever. Things will fall apart by about October half term. Natural consequences and all that…

WearyAuldWumman · 14/07/2024 16:52

I was a HoD and I would have allowed it.

I had a Headteacher who allowed both male and female staff to have the morning off for their children's first day of primary. (Mind you, I did get a bit narked that those of us who were childless carers didn't get the same consideration, but that's another matter.)

My suspicion is that your HoD is so inexperienced that they're scared of getting into trouble.

DogsAndBirds · 14/07/2024 17:04

I'm a second in department and this sort of thing has to go through the head unfortunately, however we would have allowed it especially as no cover is required.

Generally for this sort of thing someone who has a ppa in the department would cover so the person can go to the play/first day/sports day thing and that person in turn would cover some of the other persons classes as a thank you.

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