Would you be miffed?

[notthefavourite]

Two daughters

Dd1 lives opposite end of the country
Dd2 lives a twenty min drive from dp

Dd1 rings dp weekly and visits 2-3 times a year

Dd2 visits a couple times a week, picks stuff up from the shop, arranges and takes to medical appointments , deals with any household issues, does meter readings, gives lifts if need.

Last time dd1 visited, they gave her £100 as she walked the dog while visiting (3 walks I think) She doesn't stay with dp, she either stays with dd2 , hotel or friends.

They have never offered dd2 any money for petrol/time.

Obviously I'm dd2, am I right to be miffed?

Yes exactly. Obviously, as an adult, I know that money spent does not equal love, but it does hurt when you feel like you are perceived as "less than" for not being in a couple/with kids. I mean, I didn't/wouldn't actually complain about it, but yeah it hurts!

Can relate. I have a stepdad. Take him out every Sunday, clean for him, garden, organise meds, take him to appointments, keep him stocked up with socks, slippers etc. Saw him earlier to go for lunch and he told me how he had called his daughter this morning to tell her what a great daughter she is. She calls him approx once a week and visits over Christmas, despite living only an hour away. Infuriating