Hey all - feeling a bit frustrated. A few years ago I moved to another part of the UK which was 3 ish hours away from where DSs dad lives. He sees him every second weekend (ish) and did even when we lived close. He was allowed to see him whenever he wanted but never did more than every second weekend. I said I'd meet half way every other weekend to drop and collect him from him and have continued to do that 5 years later.
DS is now 16 and for developmental reasons isn't able to take public transport. Just a couple of weeks ago, the ex booked for them to go to a show, which meant me spending 6 hours driving there and back to accommodate this.
I am planning on visiting family in the next few days about 5 hours away. DS is with his dad and I asked him if, rather than collecting him from his house which will add 1.5 hours to my journey, could he maybe drive 20 mins and meet me a bit closer to my route, and he said no sorry. I said, not to be funny, but I spent 6 hours driving a couple of weeks ago to facilitate something that was a present from you. He said, well you did choose to move 3 hours away.
Am I having the p*ss taken out of me here? He is a controlling person and thankfully has minimal contact with me now outside of arranging contact. But something has to give, and that always seems to be me apparently.
For context I've also recently been diagnosed with a heart condition which makes me extremely tired. I had to take a day off sick after the 6 hour driving for the show, but I did it because I wanted my DS to have a good time and he was excited.
DS doesn't actually care about going to see him anymore as, in his words, the weekend is spent doing things that are his dads hobbies.
Just looking for an outside perspective here!