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Just found out I am pregnant

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AnxietyLevelMax · 13/07/2024 12:56

I am shocked…dont want to tell anyone yet. Want to process it first. How are we going to cope financially? We have just booked first family (with our DS) holiday for next June (baby due in March according the google). Have about £3k on credit cards. DF with stage 4 cancer I am so worried he wont make it, he is in a bad state and DP live abroad so cant just go and see them every time i want. I am like 20kg overweight and just 2 weeks ago paid a lot for a programme to help me loose weight which is due to start at the end of the month. I am just shocked, even know we wanted to have a second child but not when reality hit me it is scaring me… wtf

Just found out I am pregnant
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AnxietyLevelMax · 13/07/2024 12:59

And i am on antidepressants for depression and anxiety, my mind is spinning and cant cope with it at the moment

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Tel12 · 13/07/2024 13:05

You have debt but just booked a holiday? You need to discuss with your partner but the obvious thing would be to get your finances in order. Probably cancel holiday and concentrate on getting rid of the credit card debt as a start. Can you get a refund from the weight loss programme? NHS have a free 12 week course plus there's lots of cheap apps. Get a plan in place and you will feel much more in control.

Lostworlds · 13/07/2024 13:15

Think you need to take one step at a time

  • tell your partner - it will be easier to share the weight of it all
  • you could still go on your holiday next year but it will probably be a lot with a 3 month old so maybe cancel and see if you can get your money back or change to later in the summer.
  • I agree with @Tel12 I would cancel the weight loss programme and go for a cheaper/ free alternative.
  • create a plan to pay back some of your credit card debt.

I’m sorry about your dad, cancer is truly horrible.

I think you’re spiralling just now and thinking about how it’s all piling up but if you confide in others and take things step by step then it will get easier.

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AnxietyLevelMax · 13/07/2024 13:16

We are paying cc off and it should be done by end of the year. We have only booked a holiday and pay deposit, just to look forward to something, its nothing expensive and fancy but we are (at least we were) on track with payments, always put little bit in savings, we are still in a better position we were few years ago. Since we havent been on holiday for about 8 years we thought it is a great motivation and were really happy to take DS away.

and i tried the nhs programme. Its really crap in my opinion and the free apps as well. Not my cup of tea i am afraid. Refund isnt possible but i will try to plead with them.

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AnxietyLevelMax · 13/07/2024 13:17

Lostworlds · 13/07/2024 13:15

Think you need to take one step at a time

  • tell your partner - it will be easier to share the weight of it all
  • you could still go on your holiday next year but it will probably be a lot with a 3 month old so maybe cancel and see if you can get your money back or change to later in the summer.
  • I agree with @Tel12 I would cancel the weight loss programme and go for a cheaper/ free alternative.
  • create a plan to pay back some of your credit card debt.

I’m sorry about your dad, cancer is truly horrible.

I think you’re spiralling just now and thinking about how it’s all piling up but if you confide in others and take things step by step then it will get easier.

Thank you. Plan will definitely help to ease my anxiety

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Lostworlds · 13/07/2024 13:21

AnxietyLevelMax · 13/07/2024 13:17

Thank you. Plan will definitely help to ease my anxiety

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Anxiety and depression is horrible but you’re doing the right thing by taking medication . When you’re ready speak to your gp to make sure your medication is safe for pregnancy. I just changed mine to a slightly different one when I was pregnant.

Anxiety is making you panic just now but try to see the positives in it all. I know that’s hard but take a couple of deep breaths, take a walk and write a list of what you feel is important.

The holiday was something to look forward to and that’s great, my baby is 4 months and we’re going to go away when he’s 5/6 months so August /September time to make life a bit easier as he was a cluster feeding nightmare at first 😅 You can still go away, you can plan it for later on and then it will be even more exciting as you’ll be going on holiday as a family of 4.

dancingqueen345 · 13/07/2024 13:26

Go on the holiday! Newborn will be free and that would be a dream age to take them away.

Also I would still go ahead with the 'weight loss' programme but just treat it as a healthy eating programme to get you into the best shape ahead of the new baby. It's not wasted money and will stand you in really good stead post the baby.

And congratulations x

StormingNorman · 13/07/2024 13:35

Speak to the nutritionist on the weight loss programme as they should be able to adapt it to your pregnancy.

No idea about taking away a baby at three months but would that be feasible?

Keep on paying down the credit cards and see what baby stuff you can pick up on Marketplace and local groups. Do you have much from your first that you can get out of storage?

Wormfanclub · 13/07/2024 13:37

You can still do a weight loss programme while pregnant. It will be far safer for you and baby to lose a bit of weight too.

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