Should I agree

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Back in October 1 lost my ex’s baby at 7 weeks Tomorrow would be our due date. He wants to mark it I’m not so sure. He says I’m being unreasonable as it was his baby too. Should I agree??

You do what feels right for you.He is your ex and does't get to tell you what to do
I am sorry for your loss

Aw, I've been there but with DH but I so understand the loss x

He can mark it himself if he wants to. Surely
you are separated for a reason and if you aren’t particularly drawn to marking it then it sounds like it’s not necessary for you.
The cynical part of me feels like this is a control thing from him.

He’s an ex. You owe him nothing.
He has a right to grieve in his own way, and you in yours. But he doesn’t get to demand anything from you.
I would seriously question his motives to suggest this. I mean, does he want to get back together? It sounds like emotional blackmail to me and already has you questioning yourself.

Sorry for your loss. Tell him you're marking it in quiet contemplation. Don't be bullied into spending time with him if you don't want to, he's your ex for a reason.

He can mark it in his own way if he wants to. His grief is own business and nothing to do with you. You are not being unreasonable.

He's entitled to mark it, but if he's an ex why does that have to involve you?

I'm sorry for your loss

Sorry for your loss. Do what feels right for you though (he can mark the date in his own way if you don’t want to be together). 💐

Grief is very personal, you can both deal with it in different ways, you don't have to do the same thing.

He can mark it if he wants to. You don’t have to be part of that and he doesn’t have any right to force you into it. It’s perfectly OK for you to mark it in your own way, or not to mark it at all - he can decide what he wants to do but you should absolutely not have to be involved.

Assuming you have no other children with him, there is no reason that you even have to stay in touch with him, if you’d rather not. I think his attempts to make you take part in whatever he wants to do to mark the loss of your baby just sound like emotional blackmail to me.