DN is 18 months next week. Her shoes are a couple of sizes too small. Her grandparents (my parents) took her for her first pair with her parents and paid for them, as per tradition. This was back in February. She is still going about in pre-walker shoes but is a very confident walker now and runs everywhere, stable on her feet. My parents also think the shoes are too small and have suggested this to my sister but it caused a row as my sister thought they were undermining her. When pushed on it, she has said ‘the other shoes have stretched, whenever they feel tight, I’ll just buy one size up on Vinted’. DN now has some sandals from Vinted 2.5 sizes up from what she was measured at months ago but they are tatty and look very very worn - I have binned better items. I am all for recycling and reusing and love Vinted for a bargain but not for footwear.
The problem for my sister is not cost. She drives an expensive car and has lots of home help, they go on many different days out. She won’t budge on shoes, saying there’s no point spending £40+ and it’s frivolous when they’ll need replacing constantly.
I think shoes should be a priority; both me and my sister always had well-fitting shoes particularly as toddlers even though it cost an arm and a leg. My DD is younger than DN but we have accepted once she is old enough for shoes we might be buying new ones every couple of months until she’s in secondary school- it is just one of those things and trying to save money in this area imo is not worth the likely blisters and long term hassle/pain of having misshapen feet.
What can I do here without being nosey and too intervening? My parents could take her again to be measured but my sister just accuses them of undermining her choices.
I know ultimately it’s none of my business but just wondering what you’d do and how you’d try and help?