Am I reading too much into this.
DC had a friend at pre school - were there 2 yrs together , I am very good friends with the Mum.
Kids are close in age but mine is school yr above so went to school in Sept whilst friends DC stayed at pre school.
We have still seen them as family and have done play dates etc. And of course see friend.
DCs still play nicely and ask to play with each other and my DC is kind and fun, however when we last saw them early May it was quite obvious that my DC is at school.
The meet ups between DF and I and alone as a family have gotten less this past 5 months the time in May we’d not seen them since early March (live in same suburb). And cannot remember exactly when DF and I last got together on our own - mainly due to several implosions in our life over past 6 months - health and house related. Which now I reflect she hasn’t been awfully supportive on. We used to see each other at least twice a week so aren’t in habit of whatsapp chats.
She’s been busy too which but with some lovely exciting things - despite falling apart mentally and physically for a little bit I have been nothing but supportive/happy where I can and have seen stuff on social media.
She also no longer interacts with me on social media….hasn’t all yr, I mean I don’t post much tbf but last month I won an award (actually quite prestigious) for a work project last yr. She saw the instagram story. Nothing from her on it.
Randomly a couple pf weeks ago she sent me a message saying she would be passing and would love to catch up. I wasn’t there but sent her some other dates - I was really happy to hear from her.
She voice noted me back saying she couldn’t make any because of x,y,z. One of those being her DC’s birthday party. And Yup we weren’t invited.
She then termed it DC’s nursery birthday party and almost as she was talking sounded like she had started feeling guilty (why she pressed send??) and then started saying well its more like a leaving party you know because DC is leaving pre school and it’s a way to say bye to all their friends. They’re going to miss them.
Well they’re going to the same school with 3 of them and most live in the same area. One lives 2 streets away. She and I both see lots of the other parents socially and therefore the children. Also there’s 10 of them leaving?!? All of whom my DC knows well any several good pals with them. Not just her DC leaving
It was really awful as two people came up to me at school the week before the party and said they would see me Sat. I was confused on the first one….oooh do we have something arranged. ‘At Krupsfriend’s DC’s party’ ‘errrrr yes we’re not invited‘ - this is a good friend from another friendship group so I was quite open - no idea why, she was shocked and raised and eyebrow when I said its just pre school apparently - so this friend says really, I think lots are bringing siblings (this friend has one at our school one at the pre school) one of whom is at the same school as my DC. She was shocked as clearly knows we’re good friends as families.
The second person who said this I just said oh we’re not going.
I have really not known how to take all this it’s been a little hurtful and socially embarrassing.
Its my DC’s birthday next month and I would have automatically invited them to their party but have hung back.
Then to add to confusion bumped into her in town at weekend. DC and I were sat on a bench having a drink - she came up to us - could 100% have actively avoided. She was so warm and effusive to both DC and I - it was nice to see her. And didn’t feel forced or fake on her part.
DH says I should get in touch and send her the invite but I just feel very, very weird about it all tbh. I’ve woken up a few nights wondering what we might have done wrong.