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AIBU?

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Not sure if I’m BU

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FlamingoFloss · 11/07/2024 23:28

So, really horrible week. My somewhat
estranged father died. Tried to get there in time
but missed his passing by less than 20 minutes. It was a difficult relationship but I’m hurting nonetheless.

so it’s now four days on and I’ve suddenly realised that I’ve barely had any ‘check in’s’ from those who are supposed to be my closest friends. Apart from a couple , ‘are you ok’s’ - just nothing.

one is on holiday so fair do’s until I suddenly realised she is posting all over SM - like every day but no message to me - ot even a ‘thinking of you’ or ‘sending a hug’ kind of thing: Another really good friend, also just barely anything.

im not generally needy and know and accept my friends have lives that absolutely do not revolve around me but I do feel, if I’m honest, just not that important and just not thought about.

i just know that I wouldn’t be like this if the situation weee reversed. AIBU?

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TheHuntSyndicate · 11/07/2024 23:30

Perhaps because you had a difficult relationship with him, they don't think you will be that upset or simply because they don't know what to say.

FlamingoFloss · 11/07/2024 23:33

TheHuntSyndicate · 11/07/2024 23:30

Perhaps because you had a difficult relationship with him, they don't think you will be that upset or simply because they don't know what to say.

Maybe. But I think I just thought my friends knew me. Im just feeling a bit hurt but maybe I’m overthinking it

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