My best friend is my favourite person on the planet after my kids.
She sometimes struggles with her mental health and ADHD.
She's going through a tough time and I have supported her.
She has other friends but im probably the only one she's close to.
A couple of months ago she started going quiet on me. We'd gone from talking every day, to every couple of days, and then it was a month of silence.
She messaged to say she's struggling with her new ADHD meds and that we should catch up... then nothing since and that was 2 weeks ago.
I message her occasionally to ask how she is and let her know I'm here, but she doesn't reply.
I've had my own problems - a relative nearly died - and I felt I couldn't tell her because she wasn't around. When I did tell her, she sympathised but it was soon forgotten.
I feel like she's struggling to the point she cannot talk to me. I know she's been struggling for a while and I've tried my best to support her. She's in therapy and has medication.
I know this is selfish but it's now really affecting my mental health. It triggers my abandonment issues. I miss her immensely. I feel lonely. I feel like I've done something wrong. I've asked her so many times if I've done something but she never replies. She doesn't acknowledge how I'm feeling.
I understand I'm being selfish because it's not about me. I just really miss her. And I feel like she's distancing herself to be nice rather than just ending our friendship. I don't know what I've done wrong but I never thought I'd lose her.
I've asked her to talk, no reply. I've told her I'm worried and feel I've done something wrong . No reply.
I don't know what to do or how to help her.
She's still working. Lives with her partner. She replied in a group chat I'm in, when a mutual friend was having an emergency. So she has seen my messages...
I know I'm not the only one she's ignoring, with her ADHD she gets overwhelmed, ignores people and then feels bad and the longer it goes on, the harder it is for her to reply
But she has NEVER been like this with me. Even when she's struggled I've always been the one she will message, the only one.
I feel so let down and lonely too.
I can’t bear to lose her. But I feel I have.
AIBU - she's struggling just wait
YNBU - she should reply at least