QR code at wedding for cash gifts

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A FB friend who has recently got married has just put a card box which they used at their wedding on marketplace (fair enough, makes sense to get some cash back for something you’ll never use again). But they have a phot of it at the wedding and next to it is a photo frame with a QR code Johnson Honeymoon fund next to it. Is this a thing?! Surely guests who had decided they wanted to give money would put cash/cheque in the card, the QR code is just to guilt people who haven’t given anything.

It was someone I went to primary school with, no I didn’t expect an invite, it looked like a lovely lavish wedding and no I’m not jealous before you all come at me.

YABU - it makes it easier for guests to give money if they wish, they aren’t being forced
YANCU - they are CFs

Weirdly enough we spent half an hour trying to find our wedding invite for an upcoming wedding because it had our password on to login to their register. The QR code is quite convenient but I guess it doesn’t look very pretty.

Fine by me. Anything that makes it easier for me to give a gift and know it's what they want is great.

The alleged etiquette around wedding gifts where there's meant to be a dance around with not putting info in the invitations and then being asked and basically just making it a hassle is so tedious.

I don’t see a problem with this to be honest.

YABU . Every wedding I've been to as an adult has asked for contribution to honeymoon/new home costs.

I'm fine with this as the new norm

Cheques are virtually obsolete/cash can go missing and is a faff to remember to bring with you.

As a guest I'd be thrilled at something so straightforward

Not got a problem with it myself.

A bit weird that you have a problem with someone's wedding that you barely know. You really need to stop giving headspace to such frivolities and perhaps address some shortcomings in your own life that are making you obsess over this?

Seems abit pushy to be

Wouldn’t bother me, especially if the bar was free. It makes it easy to top up your gift. I’ve not done it or needed to but I know people who would.

I can see how it is quite a practical idea, but it also feels a bit too transactional imho.

Yeah it would shock me, but I can't get on board with giving peers cash. It's so odd. Teenage relatives, sure. Someone my age who already has a house, quite possibly kids and doesn't need anything? Feels incredibly odd. It would be like giving a sibling cash for their birthday. Just no. Having said that, I don't have an issue with vouchers so I am aware I'm contradicting myself here!

To start from a more general perspective - I think it's super convenient to use QR codes for wedding invitations, RSVPs, wedding photos (my personal favorite, I did it like this), and, at the end of the day, the registry. And there are ways to do it properly. That said, and back to this particular case, it does seem a bit too much to me. As OP said, whoever wanted to give money as a gift would put it in a card. A honeymoon fund, on top of money/gifts that guests bring, at a lavish wedding? Well, no.