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Ionasmum19 · 2024-07-11T19:47:15+00:00

I have known for a while that my partner of 10 years watches porn, he knows I don't like it but yet continues to do it when I'm not around. Am I being unreasonable for being annoyed by this?

RobynRB · 11/07/2024 23:22

TwinCheeks · 11/07/2024 23:17

Porn is a very general word. You really need to ascertain what sort of porn he is wathing. There is every category imaginable and many you cant. Goodness knows what category he's onto by now. I believe it's a slippery slope deeper and deeper into depravity.

Yeah, he probably can't even get hard without seeing an anal prolapse by now...

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 12/07/2024 00:01

@RobynRB 😭

C0rdeliaChase · 12/07/2024 00:04

OhHelloMiss · 11/07/2024 21:23

When you're not around? Then it's up to him....

So if your DH shagged another woman when you're not around it's fine because "it's up to him"?

C0rdeliaChase · 12/07/2024 00:06

Opinionwontchangeluv · 11/07/2024 23:02

Urgh I hate porn but I wouldn't leave someone because they watch it

I most definitely would.

Ivyrosecrayon · 12/07/2024 00:08

Neither of you are wrong tbh..
You are allowed not to like him watching porn..
But he's also allowed to think it's none of your business..
Now the choice is whether or not you wish to continue the relationship?
I don't think you are going to stop him.. he may not feel you have the right to stop him and honestly you don't really. But you do have the right to end the relationship if its a deal breaker for you.
Obviously if it's effecting your sex life together then it's legitimate to try and have a discussion about how his use of porn is having negative effects..
But if it's not.. I personally think its a bit invasive.
I had an ex who tried to tell me that he didn't ever want me to look at porn. I just broke up with him. I don't really look at porn that often, hardly ever really.. but when he said that to me I just thought it was invasive and controlling and no longer wanted to be with him.

Youcantellalotofthingsabouttheflowers · 12/07/2024 00:11

I would agree the vast majority of men watch porn.

You always have the “my partner definitely doesn’t, I know that for a fact” delusional Angies on threads like this though. Without fail.

BouquetGarni224 · 12/07/2024 00:33

Youcantellalotofthingsabouttheflowers · 12/07/2024 00:11

I would agree the vast majority of men watch porn.

You always have the “my partner definitely doesn’t, I know that for a fact” delusional Angies on threads like this though. Without fail.

I've dated one man who didn't watch it.

He was the exception to the rule however.

He was generally the most IT illiterate person I've known and lived like he was in the ... 80s maybe.
Extremely basic mobile phone, didn't use tablets, pcs, laptops, nada.

He said he saw it, it didn't do much for him, and he just used the latest encounter or his favourite encounter with partner (or ex) for masturbation.

He had zero reason to lie because I'm the last person to judge anyone for watching legal porn and watched it myself.

I don't think I've met another man like him though.

Youcantellalotofthingsabouttheflowers · 12/07/2024 00:36

BouquetGarni224 · 12/07/2024 00:33

I've dated one man who didn't watch it.

He was the exception to the rule however.

He was generally the most IT illiterate person I've known and lived like he was in the ... 80s maybe.
Extremely basic mobile phone, didn't use tablets, pcs, laptops, nada.

He said he saw it, it didn't do much for him, and he just used the latest encounter or his favourite encounter with partner (or ex) for masturbation.

He had zero reason to lie because I'm the last person to judge anyone for watching legal porn and watched it myself.

I don't think I've met another man like him though.

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I do believe there are men like this out there too but few and far between.

undercoverdale · 12/07/2024 08:17

Yes this. Few and far between but they exist.

Most just lie. And most lie well.

undercoverdale · 12/07/2024 08:20

Ivyrosecrayon · 12/07/2024 00:08

Neither of you are wrong tbh..
You are allowed not to like him watching porn..
But he's also allowed to think it's none of your business..
Now the choice is whether or not you wish to continue the relationship?
I don't think you are going to stop him.. he may not feel you have the right to stop him and honestly you don't really. But you do have the right to end the relationship if its a deal breaker for you.
Obviously if it's effecting your sex life together then it's legitimate to try and have a discussion about how his use of porn is having negative effects..
But if it's not.. I personally think its a bit invasive.
I had an ex who tried to tell me that he didn't ever want me to look at porn. I just broke up with him. I don't really look at porn that often, hardly ever really.. but when he said that to me I just thought it was invasive and controlling and no longer wanted to be with him.

Interesting. Did he have ethical
Concerns, and if so did you not have some sympathy for those? Or did you feel it was mind control for the sake of mind control. Interesting to hear it the other way around (assuming you are female)?.

brunettemic · 12/07/2024 08:29

Wimbledoner · 11/07/2024 22:32

Do any men not watch porn?

Some men do and some men don’t. Brace yourself though…some women watch porn! Shocking I know, I can let you know my favourites if you like?

RobynRB · 12/07/2024 11:05

I get the impression a lot more 'younger' women watch porn... which causes its own problems of course, cos not all men are built like Jason Luv. 😞

tennesseewhiskey1 · 12/07/2024 11:22

depends on your boundaries.