To ask if and when your toddler brought you to tears? I have had the worst day!

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This isn’t one specific thing but DD has been awful today. Hitting me, wouldn’t get dressed, throwing food. I ended up missing my dental appointment (and being charged for it). I know I shouldn’t have bothered booking it on a day I am with her but I have no other time as I am working. I felt like a nervous wreck by the end of the day and have just cried in a heap. Please make me feel less alone if you’ve had days like this! She’s my first and I don’t even know if this is normal!

Been there, done that, got the tear stained t-shirt. You don't say how old your toddler is but yes it's perfectly normal to have some days where everything just goes to shit and you just have to have a little cry. The best thing to do is not dwell on it and just think 'tomorrow is another day'. Unfortunately there will be many other days that go just as bad, but also many many days that are a whole lot better, part and parcel of being a parent I'm afraid 💐

I feel your pain. My youngest is 20 months and can tantrum like nothing else. I'd booked for the two of us to go swimming this morning, I thought it would be nice whilst her elder sister was at preschool.

In the morning before we were due to leave she shouted and cried and screamed for nearly 45 minutes because she wanted to go on the bike. It was torrential rain, it wasn't going to happen. When we got to the swimming pool she decided after all of 10 mins in the actual water she'd rather go and look at the keys in the lockers 🫠🤷

It's just gone 9pm and she's only just gone to sleep. I'm sure I'm looking at it through rose tinted spectacles etc but my eldest was much calmer, could be reasoned with etc. Can see now that is zero credit to out parent and in fact just their different temperaments.

But yes, it really tries my patience and I feel utterly frustrated and useless a lot of the time.

Everyday is like this for me atm! Sending hugs I have 2 under two 😫😫

This too will pass
Tomorrow is another day.

Oh gosh you're absolutely not alone!! I'm almost certain there's genuine demonic possession some days with my (nearly three year old) DD. There's days I've cried away my evening because I'm so exhausted from the absolute crap she's pulled. There's also days I've cried in the bathroom hoping she won't come find me which obviously she does.

All you can do is give yourself a bit of a "I got through it" talk, take whatever down time little ones likely to give you and get some rest. Then, next time you have a beautiful day with them, savour it. They'll be back to complete carnage again soon.

My parenting mantra is "nothing ever lasts with kids. The good or the bad".
It's comforting at times like this. Less so when things are going well!

Be kind to yourself. You're human and you've had a crap day. Feeling as you do is normal and rational in this situation!

For all the "they've just got big feelings" or "they're having a tricky time" there's also the fact it doesn't take away how freaking hard it can be at those times.
Frankly, knowing my DD is struggling with big feelings about the fact I won't let her get in the oven, which is on, doesn't make it any less crappy when she's hitting and causing general chaos. Especially not when it's the 86th meltdown of the day.

Been there and am not embarrassed to say I have. Parenting is hard work and there will be days like today.

Re missed dental appointment one thing I now do is book personal things when child has alternative childcare arrangements. Best for all parties involved.

I have 3 children. Not todlers anymore.

We have all been there.
I hope tomorrow is a better day!

We adopted DS when he was toddler. My word, was I thrown into the deep end! He would lay on the floor wailing that I wasn't his mummy and responding to anything I said with NO.

I had to put a stair gate across our bedroom door to keep myself out of harms way when he was chucking toys at me in disgust.

It passed. As will your trying times too, so hang in there 💐🍹

DD was a nightmare,I still can't believe we both lived to tell the tale.

On holiday last week, it's frequent we are definitely in the throws of terrible twos here. She's my second so I know it passes but it doesn't help when you are in it.

However, to switch this up a bit as I find it helps to look for the glimmers of the lovely person they are about to become.... I taught her to say "I love you" a few weeks ago by pointing at her eye, making the heart shape with her fingers and then touching the person. In the middle of a tantrum tonight before bed, I scooped her up and cuddled and rocked her and once she stopped crying she leaned back away from me and did "I love you" out of the blue. That made me cry - quietly so I didn't make a fuss but it was so lovely and just what I needed to hear.

It will get better. You are doing great.

My 3yo DS had a massive tantrum and refused to leave soft play the other day. I had to carry him kicking and screaming down a flight of stairs, across the car park and wrestle him into his car seat while he shouted “you’re hurting me”. (I absolutely wasn’t!).

It was awful. Luckily I didn’t have the baby with me as well because I wouldn’t have been able to do that and push the pram - I have no idea what I would have done 🤦🏻‍♀️