No contacted without warning ?

[Princessegg]

Pls assure me that it’s an OK thing to do.

I struggled with the break up soooooooo much. Months and months of heartbreak and hope. I’m finally done, I can’t anymore. I’m just empty and hard realisation hit me that I’m not doing any good myself by begging for love.

I kept asking my ex to stay in contact, to be friends but it’s not going to work.

I went no contact without any warning. He tried a little to stay in touch… little breadcrumbs of communication but I’m not responding (I would have done before)

I don’t want another discussion , I don’t want more heartache. But am I an awful person for going no contact after months of begging to stay in touch?

That should be ‘no contact’ in the subject line @mnhq could you please change it?

No. You are being kind to yourself.

I'd go further and block him.

All it will take would be one night when you're feeling lonely, a breadcrumb from him and you'll end up shagging him then be right back at square one.

Love yourself.

It's fine op,you do what you need to. At most, send a message saying "I realised we need to not be in contact any more" then block

You're not awful. It's just all a bit drama lama.

You'll feel much better once you decide to finally stop giving him any headspace .

It sounds as though your ex would be happy with that, surely?

I think my ex fed me ‘breadcrumbs’
he mostly let me go but kept me ever so slightly close… just enough to be able to swing back in my life should he want to.

I really just can’t anymore though… quite literally broke myself mentally in this breakup 😞

Eh?

But you asked him to stay in contact according to your OP?

He did what you asked at the time and I'm sure he'll do what you ask now if you tell him no more contact.

Block him

@mnhq doesn't exist, OP.

If you want your post to be changed, report your own OP with your request.

I don't think you need to worry about going no contact with someone who has split up with you.

It's a non event.

I doubt he will care very much you've suddenly cut him off. I don't think he's going to be begging you to stay friends.

You've done yourself a favour.