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Am I being unreasonable to think this is very rude for not getting a reply and how do I respond or do I just ignore

So another sch mum (my DD is friends to her DD the 2 are close and walk to sch together)

I sent a msg to d lady because she had asked that I let her know about a club my DD goes to (although this was ages ago) now I have the info she needs and I texted her via WhatsApp and she read and didn't reply

Do I just ignore the fact that she's not replying?
Text her? If yes, what do I text her?

I personally think is rude not to reply peoples messages 🤷🏽‍♀️

I am often this person. I never mean to be rude although I can see how it comes across. I will often read a friends message and do something else then reply later. I would just leave it, she may reply later.

It doesn’t sound urgent and she’s probably busy.

When did you send the info? Some people read messages and then intend to reply later as they're busy at that moment, and sometimes they forget. Do you text regularly and does she often not respond? I wouldn't text her again if it was me, but if you did want to you could just say something like hope that info was helpfu

I don't think it's rude.

It would have been nice to send a thank you, but not every message needs a reply. She has the information and can now decide to go ahead and get in touch with the club, or not. Also you admit she asked for the information ages ago, depending on how long it's been since she initially showed an interest she may have already been in touch with the club.

Perhaps she thought you were rude for taking so long to give her the details you had said you would get
I wouldn't get in a tizz about it - have you spoken to her IRL since you sent the WhatsApp? If yes, why didn't you ask her if she received it. If no, just forget it and wait to see what she says next time you meet

She could have forgotten or she could be purposely waiting, perhaps looking to get her DD signed up before replying. Or she could just be thoughtless or rude.

If she isn't a friend for yours, I'd try to just accept and move on. People are rude all the time (don't get me started about colleagues who ignore me!).

Not everyone has the same notion of what constitutes good manners. 🤷🏼‍♀️
It used to really fuck me off when I didn't get a reply or thank you when I was expecting one. However, I've mellowed in my old age.

This...and if she's anything like me she'll forget about it too.
I have no defence, it's just overwhelm.
You've sent the message so that's fine.
Moving on...

I used to reply to everyone, but I have read some many grumpy MN posters who are shocked/ horrified/ outraged to get a whatsapp or email at "unsociable" hours because they don't know how to put their phone on silent. Now I only reply back immediately to my friends and people I know.

I won't reply to another mum in the middle of the night, when I tend to deal with things, so I might forget to reply later.

You do have a very strong reaction about it, what's that all about?

@Whinge

Yes, not every message needs a reply but this one does. I need her to reply she if she still wants to go ahead so that I can then pass her interest on to the club🤷🏽‍♀️

Why do you need to pass her interest on to the club?

Do you run the club? If not, then i'm sure she's able to get in touch with them herself.

@Sondheimisademigod
I told her I would let her know once the club opens up that they had issues and yes, it took long for the club to open up and I sent the text to her as soon as they opened

You took ages to get back to her yet you demand an immediate response. She's busy, she'll get back to you when it's convenient for her.

I agree that because you took ages to get back to her she's not bothered anymore 🤷‍♀️

Yeah, you gave her the info SHE needed. You do not NEED her to get back to you at all. It's her life. She'll do what she wants.

Her not responding does not impact your life. It's not a need you have for her to respond about a child's club

Also, I often open messages I dont mean to when I am busy using my phone at work or trying to sort something out in life.

Sometimes I read a message to make sure it's not an emergency but dont have time to reply because I am busy.

That's life. You cannot control people.

You had your reasons for taking time to contact her. She has the same.

You’ve sent her the message, she hasn’t replied so I wouldn’t chase it. I understand that you need to pass on her interest to the club but I would just let her reply in her own time.

You don’t need to pass on her interest, you’re not her PA. Maybe she found your message odd or confusing. If her child wants to go to the club she can organise it.

You sound quite intense.