Poo everywhere help

[Whatayear2023]

My mums late 80s .... she lives alone but I go there almost daily....
Today I walk in and she yells help me and there is poo everywhere ! She just kept on pooing it was everywhere.... even in her fingernails and toenails big logs on floor etc
She said she couldn't get upstairs to wash and I had to use a bowl to clean her up... as I'm cleaning she's still pooing and weeing herself.
She has that emergency thing around her neck and someone came but said they cannot help with holding her up while I wash or help me try to get her upstairs....
Just makes me think if I wasn't there who would have helped her no carers etc and this surely.happens to many more older people. It's really hit me that she was in this state and there was no help available for being left in your own poop and pee ( she had been like it over 24 hours)

She really does need to be seen by her GP. This is not normal and it may be something that can be quite easily fixed. Is she in receipt of Attendance Allowance? This would help pay for a carer / cleaner / underwear / pads etc. I know they can be stubborn, but persevere if you can.

I'm so sorry for you both that this happened! You've had some good suggestions upthread. I just wanted to add....has she been constipated at all? Often the bowels slow down as people get older and diarrhoea can actually be an overflow coming around the backed up poo.

Just worth checking if she's usually regular.

Oh OP - how awful for you both!

I wonder if she can truly be described as ‘mentally completely with it’ if she’s refusing all help / GP input - but is frail enough to get in to this state?

Has she possibly been backed up and now it's all coming away?

Poor you and your poor poor mum. Similar happened with my beloved late grandmother when she had food poisoning. She rang us saying she was bleeding (intimately) but no, it was diarrhea and she didn’t realise. My mum and I had to sort it out, gloves and masks on and get going. She kept saying where would I be without you two. I can answer that - in an old people’s home (where the rest of the family would have pit her so they could continue living their lives) or dead.
It is so harrowing caring for an elderly person. Be kind to yourself OP.

I’d get medical advice. It could be C-Diff.

This happened to my nan. She was so poorly and had giardia. We think caused by bagged salad she had at a pub meal. Hospitalised for weeks and weeks.