To blame nursery for this?

[gggal]

And to be annoyed about it?

dd is in nursery Monday to Wednesday. Without fail her nappies are terrible on those days. It then takes a day or so with me to get them to firm up again. Then she has normal nappies. Only for the same thing to happen again come Monday. She’s 18 months.

They keep food diaries for all toddlers. She isn’t having anything different at home but I assume the quality of food must be pretty bad for this to be happening? It’s honestly awful and I am sick of changing multiple nappies on days she has come back from nursery!!!!

Why are you posting on here and not talking to the nursery? Fucking hell

You must work in a very different nursery to the one we use them. Ours has an actual chef who cooks all the meals. there’s tasting for the parents every time there’s a new menu and the food is good quality, lots of fruit and veg and proper meals.

YABU. Obviously something is upsetting her stomach so she is sensitive to something. How on earth you equate that as blame for the nursery baffles me.

Have you spoken to them have you compared her diet and identified any differences?

One nursery I was a student at had a fantastic menu but then gave the children chips, value ham and beans or similar every day and lied. Another one I was in for a bit had an amazing menu. I still remember a creamy chicken dish topped with fresh torn tarragon that I would have paid £20 for in a restaurant. And all the rest varied between those 2. Nurseries vary massively.

Probably one thing that disagrees with her. Maybe cow milk.

I think because its a pattern for the days the child is at nursery and then reverts back to normal when at home.🤔 I'm not saying it's the nursery I'm just guessing that's why op thinks it is...

So you have no actual evidence it is the nursery doing anything wrong so your first instinct is to blame?

There could be lots of reasons

Yes but it's the accusatory tone. They can't avoid a trigger if her parents are not working on a food diary. The nursery provided the menu it is up to the parents to figure out the triggers.

I'm guessing they use sweetener in the desserts to meet the low sugar target and it is that causing the diarrhoea. Like if you eat too make sugar free sweets

I'd do a week where you supply all the food, lunch box style. Everything, down to snacks. And see if there is an improvement.

I had to do this with my little one because of a mysterious allergy. It ruled out the nursery being the problem and if our case it was pollen. But nursery were open to doing it to support us.

@lawnseed how did you find that out?

@BookArt they won’t allow this

@Marblessolveeverything I’m amazed you’re baffled. I explain in my OP. Did you even read it? 🤦🏼‍♀️

Go to the doctor. If they advise that this is a good suggestion you can get them to write it down and the nursery are encouraged to comply.
What were there reasons for not allowing this?
At our nursery two dodgy nappies in one day the child is sent home.

You aren't reading my posts properly.

Yes it is likely linked it is her choice of "blame" .Blame implies inappropriate care, there have been comments referring to qualified chefs. It is hardly a risk in having a well experienced cook rather than chef if financially not viable.

It isn't an error giving a known intolerant. She has identified a source and needs to work with them.

But the reality is her replicating and tracking their menu at home over five days will give results quicker.,It's simple logic🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

@Marblessolveeverything you do realise you’re responding to me as OP but referring to me in the third person? I have checked the menu, it has nothing on it that isn’t already consumed at home. Which is why I query the quality of the food.

You need to know the brands of the food they are using, including things like oils they are cooking with. Chances are there is an intolerance to a food and you don't have the exact same food at home. Some factories have more cross contamination than others or more likely is there might be a different ingredient added to the nursery's purchased food than you own.

It does feel a little that you want to blame the nursery instead of working with them to figure it out so your child doesn't have to struggle. As loose stools will make potty training tricky so it is your best interests to try some of the advice above as you've been given several suggestions. It isn't up to the nursery to figure it out, it is yours. You need to work around the problems, instead of just blaming someone/the nursery when they haven't actually done anything wrong.

Could be stress?