to expect someone to let me know whether they are still coming out with me today less than 3 hours before we are meant to be going?

[nappyaddict]

i asked a friend if she wanted to go to a play centre today with me and a couple of other mums. i was planning on getting the bus but she offered to give me a lift as it was on her way. cos she is picking me we only have to leave 10 minutes before we need to be there, so i text her last night to check she is still coming cos otherwise i need to leave 45 mins before to get the bus. no reply so have just sent another message explaining that i need to know whether to get the bus or not. now she might have no credit like me (reason i can only send text messages atm) but i assume at 9:24 she will be up by now and could come on the internet and send me an email to let me know. argh.

oh and btw she only has the one child and he doesn't go to school or nursery yet so it's not that she's on her way back from there. i suppose she may have popped to the shop though. hadn't thought of that.

If you're meeting other mums, then I'd send her a text to say you're getting the bus.
Otherwise you're up the creek if she doesn't turn up.

that's what i thought. i need to leave at 11:30 to get the bus so i'll give her til 11:15 to reply and then tell her i'm getting the bus. the other mums haven't emailed me back either though and i don't have their numbers. one has mine though. arghhhh why do i try to arrange things like this?

Thinking back to when mine were that age, maybe the mums aren't up yet?

Even if you end up being the only one going, it's still worth it isn't it? At least you've done something positive with the day.

not really worth it if i end up being the only one cos there are nearer and cheaper ones we could go to. chose this place cos it was easier for the other mums to get to but it requires a longer bus journey and 20 minute(uphill) walk from the bus stop as opposed to a 5 minute flat walk.

just stay put. if she turns up, fine. If not, go to one nearby. If people don't get back to you, you can't be blamed.

Ooh - dilemma. Do you know the other mums well? Is there a good chance they'll turn up?

that is true i suppose. i'm just worried they will all still go assuming i think they are still going and then it won't be very good if i don't turn up when i have arranged it. especially when they don't know one another!

i know them well but only through talking to them on msn. the one who is meant to be picking me up i have met before but the other 2 i haven't.

It could be be worth going this time on the assumption they'll turn up and you can have a nice morning with them.

Is there some shopping you could do near to the play centre in case they don't come and you don't spend as much time at the centre by yourself?

nope its only a village but my nan lives up the road so i could go and see her.

Sounds like a plan.

This sort of situation really bugs me (MM GETS UP ON HER SOAP BOX - well actually it's a toddler step stool but you get the picture!)
If I say I am going to go somewhere/meet someone/give someone a ring I bloody well bust a gut to do it.

If I can't for any reason at all, I'd let them know asap, but, I seem to be in a very small minority here as I have so many friends and collegues who would think nothing of changing their plans and not letting others know til the last minute or worse, at all.

It's RUDE and SELFISH and sometimes massively inconvenient for the others involved - like you say nappyaddict, it's not the closest and easiest for you,(not to mention hugely disapointing if children are involved)

It only takes a text to confirm the night before or first thing and everyone knows where the stand. That is surely just good manners

Rant over - hope she turns up nappy and you have a nice day

she got back to me but the others didn't so we left it. had a wonderful time walking around our village, we had cake and hot choc in the cafe, went to the park, fed the ducks oh and ran into my f*ck buddy at the petrol station. now that was interesting!! for some reason he seemed to have lost his voice he was trying to organise a load of 8 year olds onto a coach for a weekend football coaching residential though poor lad. i think they had forgotten something important cos i saw one of the coaches driving back the wrong way 5 mins later lol. why you would put 3 21 year old boys in charge of such a responsible task i've no idea.