Is he inconsiderate & tight?

[Yorkshirewithlove]

Got back from 2 holiday with my children(lm a single parent). My boyfriend picked me up in my car from the airport and parked 15-20 minute walk from terminal to avoid parking charges.

Was he inconsiderate not to even have some milk in the fridge for a cuppa after travelling all day? I had to stop and buy stuff at shop on way home. I'm annoyed as l would have milk bought and few bits for sandwich if other way around. We do not live together. I think he is a tight ass. Thoughts please, thanks.

I definitely would have thought to pick up post-holiday bread and milk for a loved one. I've even done it for a neighbour!
This is Mumsnet though, where doing favours is generally considered a no-no.

It was my car so my fuel was used. If he had incurred parking charges, of course l would have paid. I asked him what he did when l was away and he said said nothing so presumably the run to the airport gave him something to do. He offered to pick us up, l had planned to use public transport. I have picked him up previously from the airport.

Someone picks you up from the airport and saves you either public transport or a taxi fare - then you call them tight.

its a £50 fare for a 25 minute drive to my local airport.

Parking is £1 a minute in the pick up car park

the car park 8/10 minutes away is free for the first 20 minutes

Out of curiosity - what did you give them for picking you up?

Yo be honest the best way to get someone to consider your needs is to communicate with them

text them when you're on your way to the airport and request that they get you milk and bread from the shop before picking you up. That way if you do it often enough, communication - you'll often get your needs met.

Too late to vote but YABVU. He picked you up at the airport and you’re moaning about a pint of milk.

It wouldn’t cross my mind to get bits in for someone I’m picking up, I’d just presume we’d stop at a garage or shop on way home to pick up a few basics.

I got him a Thai curry and a 6 pack of budweiser, for picking me up.

I will also be repaying the favour by dropping him & picking him up from the pub when he needs a lift at the weekend (using my car).

I can't believe the responses here!

Did you have to walk 20 minutes to your car? That is beyond tight.

It sounds like you spend a lot of money on him OP.

Please don't move him in and stop being generous to him.

And what is he going to give you for dropping him and picking him up from the pub?

I don't understand this. Most short stay carparks are at least a 10 minute walk. What's wrong with people that they can't walk 20 mins? I'd much rather do that than pay extortionate airport parking, just out of principle.

I wouldn't expect or want anything for doing him a favour by dropping him off etc.

I believe that the walk was nearer 30 minutes. It's a fair point about the airport charges but my boyfriend was not going to get caught to pay them anyway-- given how far away he parked.

So you saved £50 on a taxi, got him a takeaway and some beer but your expectation is he should know you need groceries in the house for returning home? Without any communication of this actual expectation?

Just tell him next time communicate

Milk would have been appreciated for a cuppa. I had left 2 litres in my fridge which would have gone off had he not drank it. I have communicated previously about it being nice to return home and have milk in the fridge.

Depends how happy you are to live with someone who isn’t able to predict small actions needed to make you comfortable.

You came back from a holiday, not a hard done by work trip or slog. Be a bit grateful .it wouldn't have occurred to me as usually if I travel I order in on that day. If there's no milk then go get some, hardly a big deal.

Maybe I'm wrong, in that I don't feel the need to be taken care of like this. I'd have planned on getting myself home from the airport, if he'd offered I'd have been very grateful and either picked up some milk at the M&S at arrivals or asked him to stop on the way home.

But he expects a takeaway and beer from you? Even though it was your car and your petrol?

Everyone’s so different. I’ve always stocked up my mums fridge before they’ve returned home and she does the same for us. If it’s an afternoon flight she’s been known to buy a cooked chicken so we had something for tea.

So now he should be grateful that picking you up gave him something to do!

fuck me

i can only imagine the responses if you’d said your boyfriend expected you to get him from an airport, then moaned about you not getting him milk, then said it gave you something to do!

What a great boyfriend picking you up! he sounds great

Did you ask him to get you milk and stuff? If not he’s done absolutely nothing wrong- why would he think to do that? Given I do sometimes if my mums been away I’ll put some in her fridge but that’s just how I am.

Poor guy- gave you a lift home and then you’re annoyed over something you didn’t ask him to do!

Your username shows why you’re so unhappy that you didn’t have a cuppa immediately 😂

that aside, the milk I’d have probably asked my husband as he’d never think on it. Or just stop off. But the parking so far away? Total ick. I’ve never experienced a pick up or drop
off charge with 15 mins grace higher than £7.

my husband would normally park down the road then drive up once I’d landed so he didn’t go over the time. Not expect me to walk 20-30 mins after travelling.

Hmmm after reading the thread I get the impression he is unemployed? He stayed in your home whilst you were on holiday and used your milk, tea, bread etc and then used your own car and petrol to pick you up from the airport? You also imply he’s very tight with his money. To be honest I can see why you’re annoyed.

I'm surprised by some of these responses.

He's been using your car, eating your food and presumably spending at least some time in your home, and people think you're entitled because you want him to replace the milk and bread? YANBU in the slightest.

It's basic manners to replace the food you've used in someone's home while they're away, surely? I house-sit as part of my job and always get bread and milk in for customers without even being asked. It's just the decent thing to do, IMO.

OP, he sounds tight and you know it.
Fyi, milk freezes well and I always fill a 500ml and put in the freezer so I am not caught out.

Don't waste your life with a tight man, not worth it.

well why didn't you put the milk in the freezer? or in ice cube tray for your return?
when did you mention it'd be nice to come back to provisions? the day of your flight? the day before?