Store manager is a bully and has upset many esp me

[Auburngal]

He has only been with my store for 8 weeks and he has made colleagues upset by being a jobsworth by going over and over procedures. Morale is an all time low. Even colleagues who have worked at the store for 30 years says he’s the worst manager ever.

He came like me like a ton of bricks because I missed two cases of product. Code checkers are human. Other managers just had a quiet informal chat and that was that. I am having a tough time with my health at the moment which is made worse by bully. Back on antidepressants as we are struggling with staff leaving and colleagues on holiday (colleagues booked holidays before staff left - had to authorise them as everyone is on holiday, not a week off work doing jobs etc)

I would love to leave my job but my parents will disown me if I leave without a job to go to. I had enough. I cry every day before I go to work. But no idea what to look for in jobs as want a role with minimum contact with customers.

How do I report him anonymously? I did try to ring HR offices but cannot do anything without disclosing my details

Your parents will disown you? Are you under 18, do you live with them?

You sound like you are not coping - can you get signed off for a few days and tell your parents you have annual leave to use up? Just start applying for other retail jobs - doesn’t matter what - just to get out of this one. You can always move again. Would you work for a supermarket fulfilling people’s online orders? Or factory work? Cleaner?

Have you actually spoken to your parents about this? There's no way I would disown my child if they were crying and that miserable in a job. Id help them find a solution asap. Is there any way that you can move to a different store? Start looking for a new role now and just do your best to stick it out until you find something. Regards to HR, they are completely in the wrong to say that your complaint cannot be kept anonymous. Although if they did raise the issues with him im sure he would likely find out its you anyway if they discuss certain things. Can you get all of the impacted staff members to all raise a complaint then its not just coming from one person? Or is there someone you can go to above HR? The area manager, a chief officer you can contact? Your company should have procedures to follow in this scenario and not just be trying to fob you off. Or my final advice would be to stand up to him. Bullies are left to get away with these things because no one will speak up and then they continue that behaviour. Obviously within reason, im not saying to shout and swear at the guy. But a firm conversation about not speaking to you that way and mistakes can happen. He might just back off if you defend yourself.

Why on Earth would they disown you? Do they know what's happening? Years ago in my late teens, I landed a professional role that I really wanted. The girlfriend of the senior partner was an absolute shit of a human and made everybody's life a misery, particularly mine. One by one everybody left. One day she laid into me because I had a doctor's appointment and made disparaging comments about my health issue, all in front of visiting clients. I went home and cried and my dad told me I wasn't going back, no job in the world was worth this. I'd like to think your parents would support you if you're this unhappy.

Could you get signed off with stress and use that time to find another role?

Report him officially, they won't be allowed to tell him who reported him.
If you can get others to agree to Report him as well or to give their examples to HR, even better.