Quite some time ago, a "long-lost" brother got in touch - via an agency.
He has been adopted at birth, and we have the same mother and father.
I have almost no relationship with my parents, and they certainly don't have a relationship with one another.
I didn't know about him - no-one had ever told me.
When he was born, my mother - apparently called him, and he said he had no interest; he had abandoned us (including my younger sister) already by this time, but still MUST have known she was pregnant.
The 2lb baby stayed in an incubator for 6 weeks (so I am told) and went to adoptive parents immediately after that.
My father denies that he ever knew about him, and when they finally met - 12 years after my brother located some of his birth family (i.e. me, and grandparents) - said that the only resemblance was dark hair and brown eyes (he is the spitting image!). They share so many characteristics and quirks of personality that it is 100% certain that he is his son, but my father refuses to acknowledge it.
Even now, he is saying he would want a DNA test if they were to meet up again (unlikely), and that I knew about him long before I passed the information on to my father. A gas-lighting lie; I told him almost immediately (my mother too).
But after all this, my question is - how could she have had him adopted without the father's consent? Is that possible? I know my father is a liar and the absolute definition of a narcissist - but it bothers me that he would go so far as to say that he didn't even know about him.
He forced his second wife to have a baby adopted as well, but apparently he was trying to locate her a few years ago.
I can't ask either of them, due to the total lack of relationship these days.... But it puzzles me, and I would like to have a clearer understanding.