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Doing very little for this salary? Panic

401 replies

Greenwip · 08/07/2024 15:24

I’m earning close to 70k. I do have times where I am worked to the bone and very stressed (maybe 7 days since start of the year so averaging one day a month). The rest of the time I work 90% of the time from home and have naps, a bath, food shop etc in between a few emails and remote meetings. It sounds great and sometimes it is but I am constantly worried about job security. I wonder if this is more common than I think?

OP posts:
Knitgoodwoman · 09/07/2024 20:04

But I find with this kind of money+, I'm expected to face difficult clients, make difficult decisions and generally try and help the company grow. I've got to have awkward conversations internally and persuade people. I also have a lot of knowledge more junior workers just don't... so whilst I don't work flat out, I do work very hard the hours I work... but it's more than 1 hour a day! You're lucky Op. But the money is for the years of experience I have, and the credibility I bring.

LemonandLimeCake · 09/07/2024 20:05

You're very fortunate.

The people I know who earn that (and double) work their socks off every single day.

And they have degrees, Masters and PhDs.

Pipsqueaker · 09/07/2024 20:06

SoOriginal · 08/07/2024 15:31

Omg!! I feel exactly the same. I earn £80k and work maybe an hour or so a day. Couple of very busy days, maybe 1 a month. I’ve been here 11 years though, for a few years I was slammed but now not so much. I do worry about redundancy though.

What is your job?

Knitgoodwoman · 09/07/2024 20:06

For those asking for sectors I work in investments. Plenty of men doing sweet FA in this sector as well, the women tend to work a bit harder, but my word the men talk a good game.

Newcastlewoman · 09/07/2024 20:07

This makes me feel ill. I spent 4 years at uni and work long as a teacher. What a sorry world we live in. I get 20 mins a day for lunch and that’s it.

Mumwiththingstodo · 09/07/2024 20:07

Can I have your job! Sorry, just joking.

Nope, don't feel bad at all. I know lots of Ken in Fiscal industries earning around 100k and doing not a huge amount, and the certainty don't seem to feel bad because they are entitled men who gave believe in their worth. Do the same. Women are trained to think they are imposters, need to impress etc.You are probably very skilled beyond the average person, so don't worry. Enjoy.

WhatShallIdo11 · 09/07/2024 20:07

LostittoBostik · 09/07/2024 19:44

@WhatShallIdo11 And risk redundancy in a cost of living crisis? Nice idea! Sure the OP should discuss stretch goals and skills with their employer, and might even get bored enough to go out and look for another job, but ultimately if a company is willing to pay that person that salary to fulfil a certain role and they are already more than exceeding it then why is it anyone else's business how their hours in the day are deployed to meet the job's expectations?

So would you also be happy if someone who worked in the public sector did the same thing? Your taxes are paying their wages!

Mumwiththingstodo · 09/07/2024 20:07

Ken - I meant men

JayJayEl · 09/07/2024 20:11

Greenwip · 08/07/2024 17:45

And yes my time is monitored. I have to be very creative with it so that’s why I am stressed

If you "have to be creative" with your time then that surely suggests you shouldn't be running out (for want of a better phrase) of work to do? In what way are you creative with it - what is it you tell those above? Genuine question here, no judgement!

I think many would think you have it made, so to speak. And if you're comfortable with it (aside from the worry about being dispensable) then crack on! But I personally could not think of anything worse than having a job where you don't actually have much work to do. I think I'd go stir crazy!

WhatShallIdo11 · 09/07/2024 20:11

Mumwiththingstodo · 09/07/2024 20:07

Can I have your job! Sorry, just joking.

Nope, don't feel bad at all. I know lots of Ken in Fiscal industries earning around 100k and doing not a huge amount, and the certainty don't seem to feel bad because they are entitled men who gave believe in their worth. Do the same. Women are trained to think they are imposters, need to impress etc.You are probably very skilled beyond the average person, so don't worry. Enjoy.

Nothing to do with gender

bretta73 · 09/07/2024 20:13

I have a six figure private sector role and typically do 8-10 hours of actual work per week. Has been like this for several years and almost entirely WFH since Covid.

It's a recurring job rather than project-based so sometimes there just isn't much going on, but they need someone who knows what they're doing for what is required (whilst knowing they have someone competent and trusted in place if the workload suddenly picks up).

Obviously bored but would be absurd to give it up for more stress somewhere that I need to commute to, and where I need to build that trust from scratch.

Hateliars34 · 09/07/2024 20:18

jonnyjanetkeogh · 08/07/2024 16:03

I started my own business so I work for myself. That helped a lot as I get to control so much more than any previous role!

What kind of business is it and how did you start it? Sounds amazing and well done you!

WindsurfingDreams · 09/07/2024 20:18

In my experience in senior management we are well aware of the people who are doing barely anything while working from home and although in some cases we might now act immediately there are absolutely plans in place to sort it. Some of that will be targeted at those individuals but some will be more indiscriminate and sadly will mean people who do work hard at home will end up in the office more frequently.

But I don't think anyone is fooling us. It's obvious from output and availability. It's just sometimes there are more pressing priorities to tackle first. But their cards are marked

Britsfivk · 09/07/2024 20:27

It's simply supply and demand. If lots of people are qualified and willing to do your job and it requires face to face; you're going to work your socks off. Those with a morality complex who think they know better honestly need not apply. If you measure value in hours put in then that's not the right fit. My department is chock full of women because it pays well and it's hugely flexible. We mitigate huge risk to the business and deliver business goals and products that give value to shareholders. We also can take care of sick kids and nip out for brunch. When needed we put in ridiculous hours and do not stop until it's done.

Mumwiththingstodo · 09/07/2024 20:33

The post might not be about gender, but I think you'll find gender definitely affects roles and attitudes at work. Quite a few stats out there, but you might be lucky and work in a gender equal job, which is amazing!

Fraudornot · 09/07/2024 20:35

WindsurfingDreams · 09/07/2024 20:18

In my experience in senior management we are well aware of the people who are doing barely anything while working from home and although in some cases we might now act immediately there are absolutely plans in place to sort it. Some of that will be targeted at those individuals but some will be more indiscriminate and sadly will mean people who do work hard at home will end up in the office more frequently.

But I don't think anyone is fooling us. It's obvious from output and availability. It's just sometimes there are more pressing priorities to tackle first. But their cards are marked

Don’t think that’s true at all - many really good companies treat employees like grown ups and realise while there are down times there are also times where you need to step up. You sound like a really horrible manager to be honesf.

NeomDiffuser · 09/07/2024 20:38

I earn just shy over £100k. I'm contracted for 35 hours per week and rarely work over that. Loads of flexibility. I'm paid that much because I have niche experience and the role I do gives a return on investment on my salary of at least 10:1 (directly measurable in £). I walk the dog, do the school run etc. All my team do.

NeomDiffuser · 09/07/2024 20:40

Oh and I've had a super performance rating against all my objectives (large corporate) each year.

My line manager doesn't give a flying fuck what hours I work so long as I get results, which I consistently do.

Fraudornot · 09/07/2024 20:40

Newcastlewoman · 09/07/2024 20:07

This makes me feel ill. I spent 4 years at uni and work long as a teacher. What a sorry world we live in. I get 20 mins a day for lunch and that’s it.

It is definitely something we should talk about particularly as women and I do so with my own children. Picking a job which is intellectually stimulating but which can give you a really good income and working from home is a bonus. Unfortunately many people can qualify as teachers so it will never be a job where you can dictate the conditions. Would you consider retraining if you are stem or in computing?

CharlotteBog · 09/07/2024 20:42

Greenwip · 08/07/2024 17:45

And yes my time is monitored. I have to be very creative with it so that’s why I am stressed

So you are expected to be working when you are not. Your managers believe that you are working when you are not.

Why is this?
Is there not enough work?
Are you super efficient and smart?

I am very far from the corporate world, so someone might have to explain it to me. I am in academia (journal publishing). Our time is not monitored (we are expected to be working), and we never run out of work.
If we get through the more routine parts we work on development or think up something new or contribute to something else. If, I don't know, it's the week before Xmas, and work is quiet, no one's going to mind if someone bunks off early, but we'd let the team know (it all works out cos no one takes the piss).

I understand that there are roles which require very specific knowledge and that these people can command high salaries, yet not be working all the time, and other roles have such massive responsibility that people can again command high salaries. This doesn't sound like OP's situation because she is stressed about being found out.

CharlotteBog · 09/07/2024 20:43

NeomDiffuser · 09/07/2024 20:40

Oh and I've had a super performance rating against all my objectives (large corporate) each year.

My line manager doesn't give a flying fuck what hours I work so long as I get results, which I consistently do.

Which isn't OP's situation. Her managers (or someone) is monitoring her hours.

WindsurfingDreams · 09/07/2024 20:48

Fraudornot · 09/07/2024 20:35

Don’t think that’s true at all - many really good companies treat employees like grown ups and realise while there are down times there are also times where you need to step up. You sound like a really horrible manager to be honesf.

There's a huge difference between treating people like grown ups who have peaks of work and quieter times and tackling people who are consistently doing next to nothing.

Lunaticmess · 09/07/2024 20:48

This thread is making me feel extremely miffed by my life choices, but it’s not because I haven’t tried. I have 2 degrees. I work myself to the bone and yet I don’t even make half of that. Absolutely enjoy it on behalf of the rest of us!

NeomDiffuser · 09/07/2024 20:51

Lunaticmess · 09/07/2024 20:48

This thread is making me feel extremely miffed by my life choices, but it’s not because I haven’t tried. I have 2 degrees. I work myself to the bone and yet I don’t even make half of that. Absolutely enjoy it on behalf of the rest of us!

Why is it on the rest of you? Especially if it's a corporate. OP's job and productivity has zero impact on yours.

FakeAlaska · 09/07/2024 20:53

WindsurfingDreams · 09/07/2024 20:48

There's a huge difference between treating people like grown ups who have peaks of work and quieter times and tackling people who are consistently doing next to nothing.

Big fan of the concept of swift trust - Tsedal Neeley

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