My 70yo next door neighbour has recently been diagnosed with cancer. The hospital have offered him treatment so it's not considered terminal as such but I know it must be incredibly worrying and upsetting for him. His DB died last year which hit him hard as they lived together so 11yo DS and I have been plating meals up for him a couple of times a week and I've offered to pick bits up from the shop for him. My DS has also done some weeding for him and we take his bin to the top of the road on bin day to try and make his life a little easier. He's very grateful for these things.
DS took him a meal round last night (he doesn't go in, just stands at the door which is around the side whereas ours is on the front) and was gone a little while. When he came back he said neighbour was telling him about his treatment and then said he just wants to die and feels like jumping in the reservoir with rocks in his pocket. DS was obviously upset and shocked by this. We have known this neighbour for 5 years and he always has a chat with him on the front and used to help his brother put his mobility scooter away, so he has got to know him.
I really feel for this neighbour and don't want to stop offering help but also I don't want him talking to DS about wanting to kill himself. I reassured DS that he's just struggling with this diagnosis and he's obviously scared and feeling sad.
I'm not going to let DS go to his on his own and was thinking if I see his nurse or his DB that visits occasionally, should I mention what he said?