Why would an ex talk to you daily?

[Gladiator6789]

We split 6 months ago after a few years, it was mainly me but sort of mutual.
I still love him, we talk every day by messenger and I have seen him about 8 times since, nothing has happened though.
I've expressed regret to him, though I haven't specifically said I want to get back together, and I'm not sure he does.
It took me a few months to realise.
Talking every day isn't helping me to lose my feelings, nor is seeing him.

You need to cut contact then? Unless you have kids together I'm not sure why you're still in contact?

We don't have kids together, no. I do want us to sort things out, I know a lot of people don't believe in exes getting back together but it can work out sometimes.

I need to just have an honest conversation and be prepared to walk away if not.

Wants something from you, easy to guess what

If you're talking every day and actually want to get back together, why haven't you just said this to him? If he doesn't feel the same, that should give you the push to cease contact with him. Keeping up these every day chats if the relationship is dead will do you no favours.

Before you speak to him about a potential reunion, try hard to remember all the reasons you split in the first place. Have any of them changed since? If not, you may just be prolonging the inevitable again.

There's a reason he's an ex.

Better cutting ties completely.

You're purely doing it out of habit and the fact is familiar.

You need to break ties. Give him time to miss you. Live your life and hopefully meet someone better.

Find the right time and ask him.

I still regret leaving my first husband over 30 years ago

Why did you split up?

Does dragging it out make it easier?

I disagree that people can’t get back together. It depends on the situation and your reasons for splitting up in the first place. You need to stop beating around the bush though and have an honest conversation about it. If you both want to make it work then great but if one of you is unsure or doesn’t want to then you need to stop the daily chats as it will stop you from moving on.