To hate people trying to speak for me?

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I have been friends with a woman for around 10 years, she's in her early 50s, I'm early 30s.
To be fair this is the first time she's done it, but she did it yesterday and it really.

She invited me to a lunch event, I went and we met another lady who I hadn't met before. My friend said to her 'This is blahblah, she's from X area'. Which is absolutely fine, but then when the other woman asked me questions, my friend kept answering for me as if I were a child?

So the woman said 'Have you been here before?' and my friend said 'Yes, she's been before. '

Did you get the train here? 'Yes, she took the train down here.'
'I think you've met her before.'

It was bizarre. However even though my friend kept answering for me, I still answered the questions myself.
I didn't say anything but I found it odd and patronising, I'm capable of speaking for myself.
Should I have said something? Has anyone else had this?

Was she doing it to show social status / pecking order? It's so off.

I have no idea, I am slightly shy and quiet but so what, I can still have conversations with people.
It was bizarre as she hasn't done it before.

Yeah that's weird, it would get my back up too because it's the sort of thing my parents would do when I was a child instead of letting me speak for myself.

I’ve experienced this from time to time and it feels so patronising. It’s infuriating. It makes me think that my friend has got me wrong and doesn’t really know me.

So your friend answered the question and then you also answered it. Must have been obvious and awkward surely?

Did the host look uncomfortable?

Hmmm, the irony of being able to speak for yourself but disappearing off your own thread 😂

Your point here is rather opaque and perhaps passive aggressive. Perhaps that is why the OP hasn’t responded.

Not that I can speak for the OP in why she hasn’t responded obviously. There could be any number of reason why. But you sound goady @WallaceinAnderland, and in the same situation I wouldn’t reply.

Not that I can speak for the OP in why she hasn’t responded obviously.

Lol

OP said that her friend answered the question and then she answered it as well. So based on that, which is all we have to go on, the conversation went like this:

Woman 'Have you been here before?'
Friend 'Yes, she's been before.'
OP 'Yes, I've been before'

Woman Did you get the train here?
Friend 'Yes, she took the train down here.'
OP 'Yes I took the train down here'

etc.

Now if that happened to me when I was asking questions of a newcomer, I would feel uncomfortable and it would show in my body language. I would find the repetition more strange than the friend answering for her tbh.

Which is why I asked because I expect OP is just not explaining it right. Then I was amused by the irony of being able to speak for herself and then not doing so on her own thread.

Which is her right of course. No biggie. Just made me chuckle that's all.

Awwww, she didn’t want the OP chatting to her friend.

If she was a dog we’d call it ‘resource guarding’.

Not sure what the human version is. Weird and controlling?

I've had this from an older woman too,
Someone would ask me something, she would reply.
She would rush to ask me stuff, and I'd tell her, then when someone else asked she would jump right in and tell them wha I'd said like we were besties and she's known stuff for ages.
Then say I was at a handover at work our boss would be talking and she would whisper I'm my head stupid stuff like I'm so tired, but to others it was like we were trying to be smart and speaking about what the boss was saying it seemed so
Rude. She retired thankfully but I get it, annoying as hell.

So why didn't you say something? No one would like that.