Do you ever worry you're too annoying for anyone to tolerate and everyone will eventually abandon you?

[OptimismvsRealism]

I feel everyone is so prickly these days and it's a constant battle not to provoke furious reactions over things I thought were light-hearted or throwaway comments

Maybe I just need to be friends with animals instead

A little yes. But not the animal
bit.

Yeah.

I have a much lower tolerance for pointless small talk and fake people now. Might start up a donkey sanctuary soon.

Oh yes.

“Do you ever worry you're too annoying for anyone to tolerate and everyone will eventually abandon you?”

Yes I do. Fairly often.

“I feel everyone is so prickly these days and it's a constant battle not to provoke furious reactions over things I thought were light-hearted or throwaway comments”

i don’t get this no.

This is more my thinking.

Can you give an example?

With so much communication by text and so many social media friendships, tone is often missed.

Yes.
But then I remind myself that I actually really like and have a lot of time for other people..
So why do I spend time worrying everyone is annoyed by me?
I'll tell you why... it's because I'm annoyed by me. Because I have to put up with myself 24/7.
We are all our own worst critics.
In reality not many people out there are cuntish enough to really judge you negatively.. and out of the people who are cuntish enough, not even all of them have the time and energy because they've probably got drama going on.
And then finally.. those few who are cuntish enough and happen to have the time, to feel negatively about you...
Well why should you care anyway?
Do you really want horrible people like that to like you?

The most likeable and charismatic people I know personally have one thing in common - they don’t worry about what people think. I don’t mean opinionated, “I tell it like it is”, tactless types. I mean people who do what they want to do, unapologetically.

Watching everything you say for fear of driving people away is probably counterproductive.

This made me laugh. I agree I annoy me too!

What are you saying to people?

over things I thought were light-hearted or throwaway comments

The answer lies on what you think are light-hearted or throwaway comments. I know several people who think their commentary is always hilarious. It's not. They're insufferable at best.

Talking about my day can cause reactions over me liking or doing things that are now problematic (e.g. buying a soda stream... Still not sure why - does anyone know?)

If something went well I find you can't talk about it with many people because too many people will be annoyed/ insecure and react meanly about it

If something goes badly the subject so often gets turned back to "anyway about MY day"

I've always had a comfy number of friends but slowly feels like they're eroding

I think I lost a good one over COVID stuff (she never said but I can't think what else) and our group fell apart as a result

Everything is just

:(

No... It's that people are really touchy and react oddly to things they wouldn't have ten years ago.

You find this to be true with everyone you interact with?

Not everyone but increasing numbers have this cold energy. I think maybe it's creeping unhappiness. Making people rigid with negative feelings.

Yes.. especially today 🥺

Yep - feel like I am haemorrhaging friends at the moment and yes everyone is very precious about weird stuff and yea animals are easier OP. Sorry, no pithy sound bites but lots of sympathy.

Ive had various debates at times, i guess if they do they do, that said i still have myself at the end of the day

plus my "friends" wanted the real me, rather than machivelli wannabe so to speak, so if i annoy them by debating etc then they asked for me that way

@OptimismvsRealism I’m late to this thread but yes

did you get given a lecture about the green credentials of a soda stream or something like that?

Talking too much about yourself is often very annoying for other people, listening more and talking less can be a good approach if you're worried about annoying others. And don't give unsolicited advice either!

But also several people are obsessed with their animals! They're nice and ll, but I'm not that interested

I'm actually not sure what the details are I think possibly something to do with Israel :-/

So this!