Am I being dramatic?

[Beanz2022]

Right I need to get this out on Mumsnet as I feel it’s the only place I get fair opinions.

been with husband 8 years? Married 2. He’s ALWAYS been a heavy snorer to the point we can’t sleep in the same bed ( despite me asking him most days to go to a doctor or go private to see if anything can be done, or if there is a route cause) he if ignores me and carries on snoring.

it clearly has affected our relationship (hence the none sleeping together) yet he doesn’t see a problem, in fact - he complains at me for not wanting to sleep next to him, and then makes it a me problem.

anyway - we have moved into a new house in the last year and he (for context) has always been a video gamer so likes to stay up till all hours in the morning playing games downstairs, he then falls asleep and starts snoring - waking me up in the process at around 3am every single fucking morning, meaning I’m having to get out of bed - shout downstairs to GO TO BED!!!! I then can’t get back to sleep ( I have to be up early to do a full time job and the school run)

he still doesn’t see an issue here and continues to do it.

please help! I’m at my wits end, ready to walk out - also he’s 47 years old, and I am 35.

Because he doesn't care enough about you to be bothered to go to the GP and begin the process of fixing it. He probably needs a CPAP, but sitting around gaming is more important.

This.

My dh snores.
I raised it and he went to the gp and got a spray that corrects it within a week.

Sit him down and tell him it stops now. Today.
He either goes to bed at a decent hour and makes an appointment with the GP.
If that means he has to sit silently for 4 hours waiting to fall asleep so be it.

If it's a dealbreaker for you, you need to say so. If he still won't seek a solution then you know. At the moment he's not taking you seriously and as you've put up with it for 7 years, you can kind of see why.

He sounds totally checked out tbh. Snoring aside (and that's bad enough) you must find that completely frustrating. I think you need to sit him down and give him a few cold hard truths. The situation as it is doesn't sound sustainable in the long term.

I don't understand how his snoring is so loud it wakes you up from a different floor when he falls asleep on the couch, but if he went to bed in a different room (presumably on the same floor as you) you wouldn't hear it?

But tbh the snoring thing sounds indicative of a much bigger issue with him generally not giving much of a fuck about you.