Have I f’d up

[Yikestikes]

Cross posted in chat but posting here for traffic as I’m freaking out

So for the past year dh and I have been discussing a 3rd, we go back and forth but more recently we’ve been pro. So one month ttc, and I’m 8 dpo, and I’m quite scared that I might have actually conceived. TBH I assumed it wouldn’t happen, we tried for a while for our first and then it was very quick with second but assumed that was just a fluke.

i actually feel very nervous about it and not good nervous

normally I’ve never really had many symptoms in the tww except for basically no real discharge (sorry tmi) but the odd small amount of thick yellow. And so far that’s been me. My left boob is also quite sore.

ive tested this afternoon and it was negative, of course it was it’s way too early. When it’s the earliest you can test and it be accurate.

i need some dental work done this week, not particularly urgent but they won’t do it if your potentially pregnant or in 1st tri. filling replaced, apparently it’s deep so maybe might need root canal, but I’m quite nervy at the dentist so normally have sedation. Again won’t do if potentially pregnant

Well I'd postpone the dental work then to be safe.
Are you feeling like you're unsure if you want to be pregnant? Can you afford another one, is work for you both stable? I guess keep testing, and speak to your husband.

9dpo is generally the earliest using FMU and an early detection test.

We were similar to you in being on the fence about a third. We weren’t careful once during that time and then decided sticking at 2 was most sensible. I’m currently feeding 3mo third as I type this. It took over a year to conceive DD2. I panicked when I found out but he’s the most gorgeous final member of our family.

Tbh I don’t really know how I feel, I think maybe.

i just started freaking out about my house, salaries etc. But work for us both is stable. We earn about 120k pre tax between us but is that enough. Our house is too small which means moving at one stage and we discussed this all before and we were fine with it BUT if it’s true it makes it real.

i think I need to know and then I’ll see how I feel.

I’m really afraid of the dentist too so I’m worried to leave things

Don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way. You were on the fence and decided to go for it, now it could possibly be happening you’ve freaked out. I’m sure a lot of people feel this way when pregnant again with their 2nd or 3rd + baby.

Whatever happens it’ll work out.

Maybe if you don’t end up being pregnant take a bit of time before trying again, to decide if it’s really what you want right now.

I found out at 8dpo both times, postpone dentist and take a test in a couple days x

What’s fmu?

Dentist is Wednesday, that 11 dpo. Is that enough time?

im worried I test on 11 it’s negative and then I get the work and it’s positive day 14.

can you have dental work done pregnant?

First Morning Urine

You should ask the dentist if you can do it pregnant. be honest with them now as if you cancel short notice they may charge you. Mine ask for 24 hrs minimum.
I can't see how any of the dentistry I've ever had possibly being bad against pregnancy, but I've never been pregnant except once years ago. I guess X rays, but it's nowhere near that part of your body?

Thé anesthesia maybe and yeah the x rays in the first trimester

@Yikestikes I take diazapam before major dental work. And then they just do the local to numb it. Dk if that would be safer?
Speak to dentist tomorrow, be honest that you think you're pregnant. Then you can rebook it as and when or have a less invasive treatment if it can't wait till you've no longer got the pregnancy.

First morning urine. The HCG hormone is usually strongest first thing in the morning so better for early testing.

I’ve realised now I’m likely catastrophising, statistically it’s unlikely I conceived.

it was the weird discharge and the one sore boob and some oddly vivid dreams.

ill test on mid week before my appointment with fmu but it’s probably pretty unlikely esp as we struggled the first time!

Kindly, not everyone wants to discuss this topic with no warning of what the thread's about in the title, so this might be a better place for your thread

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception

Hope you get the result you want OP.

It's really unfair on the dentist if you don't tell them you think you might be pregnant. I'd ring them tomorrow and let them know

This is about going to the dentist while potentially pregnant though?

No one said anything about potentially not telling the dentist. If I test negative on the day of the appointment, it would be 11 dpo, I still don’t know if that’s too early, but I’d let them know and then they can evaluate there and then

This isn’t about ttc though, it’s about the dentist and pregnancy and potentially not being happy about a pregnancy

Yeah you'd still be potentially pregnant

Fair enough, quite a lot of detail re possible signs of pregnancy on your initial posts if the thread is about 'should I go to the dentist pregnant' but maybe IABU (and should learn to type quicker!)

Hope it works out for you anyway OP.

Right so technically should be 11dpo today although could’ve ovulated slightly later I suppose but early detection test stark negative

if I use the messy method (tmi sorry) the texture is slightly blood tinged yellowish Ewcm.

are these signs that I’m out? Wiping it’s still fairly dry but before af I do get more yellowish stretchy globby cm.

dont really want to postpone appointment if absolutely necessary as after talking with dh we both really want #3