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To be absolutely terrified of Lyme disease

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Marata · 07/07/2024 14:43

Warning: do yourself a favour and don’t read this thread if you have health anxiety as it will obviously be triggering. I accept that I have abnormal anxiety and need help. Most people are not worried about this

I don’t know if anyone can really help me with this. Just wondering if anyone might be able to offer some perspective. As a kid we sometimes visited the northeast of the US and would be warned to look out for ticks on woodland walks etc, I hated it and was so glad it wasn’t something we needed to worry about in the UK (actually I was probably wrong about that, but certainly numbers were much lower here). I can’t remember when I first read in the news that Lyme Disease was becoming an increasing issue in the UK, but I think it was probably around 2017. Since then I have grown increasingly worried about it to the extent that it is really affecting my life. Hiking used to make me happier than anything else in the world, I don’t really like doing it any more because the whole thing of having to check my entire body for a tick so tiny that I might easily miss it anyway spoils the pleasure for me. Friends who live in rural areas in Sussex and West Wales have invited me repeatedly to visit them, I want so much to go and see them (and they can’t understand why I’m not coming, I don’t want to tell them the real reason because I don’t want to be a drag) but I just feel too nervous as I’m sure they will want to go for walks through grass and I don’t want to explain why that makes me nervous. Even stuff like going for picnics in the park is making me anxious as there have been cases of people getting bitten and infected in London parks. Even going for walks on paved ground I worry about brushing against some greenery accidentally. I feel like it’s not long since all the limitations caused by Covid, and now this anxiety is making my life feel limited in a different way. Can anyone relate?

I realise this is excessive health anxiety and I probably need a therapist, but it feels hard to work out where the sensible medium is. Ticks are so tiny, there seem to be a lot of stories of people not realising they’ve been bitten and not recognising they’ve been infected until the disease is already doing a lot of damage to their system. There are also the stories about doctors not recognising that Lyme Disease is a problem, refusing to treat without a bullseye rash (which not all infected people get) etc. It just feels like a bit of a nightmare.

Can anyone help to give me some perspective? I know plenty of people go out and enjoy the outdoors every day without getting bitten or infected. I know even if people do get infected, sometimes they catch it early and get it treated with antibiotics. I try to remind myself of those things, but this fear is really limiting my life and I hate it. I feel like I would be too scared to get a dog or a cat, or to visit friends with pets, in case they have ticks and transmit them. It’s awful.

OP posts:
Jk987 · 08/07/2024 14:06

Think of the benefits of wonderful walks in the woodlands v the chances of getting slightly unwell v the remote chances of it being anything serious. Enjoy that fresh air OP.

alloutofcareunits · 08/07/2024 16:08

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 08/07/2024 11:43

It had legs wriggling around

Stuff of nightmares😱

I videoed it and sent it to my daughters partner who is a pharmacist, he didn't seem concerned and just said the classic "keep an eye on it" 🙄 it was fine

Aerialpigeon · 08/07/2024 16:17

get a little plastic tick twister from the pet shop and keep it in your bag. You just slide it on and twist and they release painlessly (had to do it on myself and child once or twice). That way if the worst happens, you are in control and not panicking how to get it out.

as PP have said, if you check around after walking (make sure you check crevices like backs of knees) and find them when they are tiny, they are really unlikely to pass anything on (they cause infection at the end of their feeding when are big and they’ve been on 48hrs or so).

sorry if tmi but I generally find I’m less anxious if I can work something through and have a plan/solution what to do, then the thing itself isn’t as scary?

Marata · 13/07/2024 20:53

Thank you so much to everyone who has replied. It’s been helpful to discuss the anxiety ‘out loud’ and I really appreciate your thoughts and comments. I think it’s a good idea as a PP suggested to have a clear strategy in mind for what I would do if I did get a bite, and to carry a tick removing card. Would so love to be able to go back to hiking - it may take me a while but I really appreciate the perspectives offered on here, both knowing that I’m not alone with the worry but also that people have dealt with bites when they’ve happened x

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 13/07/2024 21:07

I picked three live ticks off the face of my dog yesterday. They didn’t bite me! Long trousers and walking boots and socks. They won’t find any skin at all!!

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hellowhaaat3632 · 30/10/2025 16:47

Just want to say thanks for this thread OP. I'm also scared of ticks, having read about them but never been bitten by one! The people i know that have had lots of tick encounters are less worried. And this thread is reassuring too.

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