A birthday one…

[Oldbellows]

Husband is 65 in a couple of weeks time. As it’s summer, arranged a bbq for family and friends etc. he then says he doesn’t want a fuss as he’s not really bothered about birthdays. Well as I would be doing all the shopping, prep etc I said it’s not really any fuss, all he has to do is enjoy it! But then he said that if I don’t do anything for his birthday, then he won’t have to do anything for mine…..!
er - I love a birthday. I want fuss! I want effort! I want to feel special and loved! Just because he isn’t fussed about celebrating, doesn’t mean I’m not! I will be 60 next birthday in a few months time. Aibu in wanting it to be special?

If he doesn't want a fuss for his birthday, I'd respect that.

But tell him in no uncertain terms it doesn't work the other way around.

I think to spare yourself of disappointment you'll have to organise your own birthday celebration

Don’t put any effort into hubbys birthday, instead focus on planning a fantastic party for your birthday

He doesn't have to have a fuss if he doesn't want but it doesn't mean he's off the hook for your birthday