Unauthorized dental work

[dragonmumof2]

Ds(almost 5 and ND) broke a back molar and had a SS crown put on. While the dentist had him in the back(we were not allowed to be with him) she put an additional 3 fucking crowns on without our permission. I didn't notice this until we got home, as when I saw ds after the work was done he was in a lot of pain so I was more concerned with comforting him than inspecting the work the dentist did. I did check his mouth once we got home and settled and I was furious. Gums were a bloody mess. 3 unapproved crowns(I stayed in the waiting room the entire time, she had every opportunity to come tell me if he needed additional crowns. She had specifically said beforehand he wouldnt need anything else done, as the other teeth looked great) I cleaned his teeth with wet gauze the next few days, and as the goop the dentist put on his gums cleared away, I noticed 3 out of 4 crowns have gum recession. The broken tooth is the worst, with the gum on the inside almost completely receded. I have not called the dentist, as I'm not sure if I should contact a lawyer first before talking to them. Everything I've read says that he will need a gum graft, which is a horror show in itself to think of putting him through that. I'm just at a loss that a dentist can just "decide" to do unauthorized work on your child. I do not want her to even be in the same room as my child, let alone to try to fix what she's done. I am waiting on a call back from the local(different)dentist to have him looked at to see what her opinion is.
Yabu-call the dentist that did the work
Yanbu-call the lawyer

I don't understand why the milk tooth wasn't just removed 🤔 dd1 has had milk teeth removed to make way for adult molars, what in earth is a dentist putting crowns on milk teeth for 😬😬

Ok thanks all but if no ones willing to believe his gums receded that quickly I won't get much good from this thread, because that's what happened.

@dragonmumof2 I used to carry out kids' general anaesthetic lists years ago. As others have said it is normal to consent for examination under anaesthetic and for any additional work found to be carried out to reduce the risk for another anaesthetic.
Stainless crowns are premade they slot over the tooth with no preparation so often don't reach all the way down so there can be visble tooth below the crown edge. Staight after fitting the gums can look irritated and but normally will heal quickly and be back to looking fine.
The person you need to talk to is the dentist, we can all speculate what might have happened. If they have been remiss in their consent procedure you need to talk to them. You are perfectly within your rights not to have them carry out any more treatment but at the moment they don't even know you are so upset.

They're not crowns like you're thinking. More like caps that just fit over the tooth.

Ds1 had one and it wasn't a big job at all because he was able to tolerate the procedure with the usual local, so actually less traumatic than removal plus it kept space for the adult tooth.

To be honest, you really should post this on a forum in the US. I'm not being funny about you posting here because anyone from anywhere in the world can post here - but the vast majority of people are posting from the UK and there are differences in dentistry procedures, consent and legalities between UK and US so I really don't think you're going to get anything particular helpful out of this.

Also people are going to start having a go at you about your child's dental health because it's AIBU and people like to have a go at posters, almost as a kind of sport. No one here knows what his dental health was like before the tooth broke and the crowns were put on. No one here knows what exactly you consented to - did you sign to consent to one tooth only or was it a more general consent to any necessary dental work?
Perhaps you could contact the hospital to ask for a copy of the consent form you signed as a first step and visit a different dentist for an examination to get an idea of the state of his teeth and gums.
But again, it's difficult for people to make suggestions because we have no idea how the children's hospital/dentistry services work in the UK.

They don't believe it because it's just not possible.

If your child's teeth had lots damage, which it sounds like they did, then it's possible that the gums were previously swollen due to plaque/bad oral hygiene, covering up the recession. Now the teeth will have been cleaned, the gums will be less swollen, allowing the recession to be seen.

You don't need to shout. It's not gum recession from the crown. Children cannot have recession severe enough to cause them problems in the future. No gum graft will be necessary.

Gums may appear receeded for many many reasons e.g. seeing enamel at the base of the crown, the tooth has erupted more or gums are less inflamed and have shrunk back, even if there has been some 'recession' around a baby tooth, it is not a problem because the child is still growing and therefore will resolve once the adult tooth has erupted. The contour of the gum is formed when the adult tooth has fully erupted

Stainless steel crowns are a VERY different treatment to regular crowns. They are usually a non-invasive way of managing mild decay in baby teeth which will be shed soon anyway. They are just cemented on to the teeth without any preparation to prevent deterioration. It is likely they were getting all necessary treatment done in one go while under anaesthetic. (As obviously, repeated anaesthetics carry a higher health risk).