I recently discovered that my husband is following a few very racey accounts on Instagram, while I was scrolling down through his list of followers I came across a couple of private accounts of women (again wearing very little)that he was following who were not friends within our friendship circle!
I asked him why he was following the racy
Accounts and how did he know the women with the private accounts that he was following, first he said he wasn't following them, when I pointed out that clearly he was he said that he probably added them when he was in the pub and said he was hardly ever on social media when he is, and then finally he said I know what your trying to do here and walked away from the conversation very annoyed.
I decided to look at his list of Facebook friends and it was no surprise that he had added quite a few female friends on Facebook who had the same profile as the women on Instagram. But I noticed that one of the women that he was following on insta he was also friends with on Facebook
I found the conversation harder to approach second time round simply because I really don't like confrontation and I was worried that we were only going to end up arguing. I explained to him that I had some unanswered questions and I needed clarification, he said that random women had sent friend requests that he accepted, I asked how come all the women had the same or similar look, such as leaning into the camera lense with alot of cleavage on display He said that I was trying to make out that he was something that he wasn't, when I asked why he was following racy insta accounts he simply said " I like boobs". The conversation ended with him walking away.
I'm just at my witts end over it all, there's so much that just doesn't stack up and with no explanation about any of it Its really taking its toll on my mental health and i am finding it hard to think about anything else. Am I just expected to move on from it all while he continues to follow these accounts..