i have been married nearly 15 years and we have two children. In January my husband told me that he didn’t find me as attractive as I have gone up to a size 18. Last year I started with physical health problems and then was in a car accident, which affected my mental health and also made the pain I’m in worse. I put on weight and went from a size 16 to 18. It hurt a lot. Before this we hadn’t had sex in 2 years, he kept rejecting me and I stopped trying to initiate it. He admitted that he had been burrowing his head in the sand about our marriage. I told him last year more than once I was unhappy. I’ve lost over a stone in weight and will lose more but I’m doing it for me. My husband is overweight and his weight has increased a lot since we got married yet It’s not bothered me. Things don’t seem to be improving, I’ve found myself distancing myself and even said this to him. I don’t even know how I feel about him.
Tuesday evening I messaged him saying I can’t get over what he said in January, that I don’t feel the same way about him and don’t see a future together. He read it and after been off with me on Wednesday has carried on as normal and not mentioned it.
I’ve tried to work on the marriage, suggested doing things together but things don’t really change.
had couple therapy in the past. He won’t move out.