Am I being OTT - 15 year old daughter….

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Normalnot · 05/07/2024 21:55

Walking from one friends house to another friends house (to get picked up). I’ve told her I’ll pick her up whenever she wants (no later than 11pm) and she said 10pm from Emily’s house that’s fine, but they’re walking back from Jodie’s house now which is nearer to our house! She’s with Emily so not alone but I can’t help worrying about two 15 years olds walking about at almost 10pm especially when I would have picked them both up from where they were….

I wish I could switch off but I find it so difficult. I know that she’ll be 16 in about 3/4 months but I still struggle.

What’s everyone else’s thoughts?

I will probably get flamed for adding this but I do think it’s relative - They are both really pretty girls and frustratingly attract unwanted attention - whether that he from boys a similar age or older creepy men 🤮 I’ve almost ran out of a restaurant telling a leery creep that she a child! I was so mad.

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Normalnot · 06/07/2024 00:14

GoneFishingToday · 06/07/2024 00:07

OMG! The daft things we do at that age, it's a wonder more girls don't find themselves in trouble. At that age, I finished school at lunchtime one day, because I lived rurally I didn't want to have to wait for the school bus, so started walking the 7 miles home. A man in a car pulled up and offered me a lift. I KNEW that I shouldn't take it, but still got in, seemingly my desire to get home, was stronger than my instinct to stay safe. Once I got in the car, I realised just how stupid I'd been, and silently prayed that I'd get home safely. Thankfully, he dropped me off safely in my village, but as I went to get out of the car, he said to me 'You really are one silly young woman! Haven't your parents told you not to speak to strangers, let alone get into cars with them?'

Why, oh why, did I do that? I still can't work it out to this day, and have thought about it many times over the years, wondering what made him stop and offer me a lift. Did he think it better that he took me home, knowing that he had no bad intentions, rather than risk me getting into a car with someone who had? Did he think he would teach me a lesson if I accepted the lift?

Of course I've made a point of telling the youngsters in my family, how stupid I was, and just hope that because it was a 'real' experience, that they have taken my experience on board. It really is a scary world out there, so do what you can to keep your girls safe, who cares if you're not cool, hopefully at least you won't be the one on the news, begging people to help find your girl.

Aww I know, I think we’ve all done daft things when we were younger and as you say, we hope that will be enough to put our kids off, but it seems mine thinks I’m OTT 😢😖

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Teaandtoast12 · 06/07/2024 07:59

Totally agree! We should be able to do these things but when there’s a small risk it’s just not worth it I would always get a cab or a lift. I’m 25 and my mum is the same as you but now I’m older I’ve learnt myself it’s not worth it and definitely easier to get a lift if someone kind is offering!

Missgucci · 06/07/2024 16:36

Motheranddaughter · 05/07/2024 22:30

Get a grip
She will be fine,sje is not 5

This comment is so silly. Grown women are being attacked in broad daylight. Seriously wheres your head at????

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