To think he’s hiding something?

[poppyxo]

I’ve been dating this man for 6 months. We speak everyday and usually see each other twice or once a week. He’s told me that he is exclusive with me, but I have had a gut feeling he’s not telling the truth. I can’t say why, just doesn’t sit right with me. As a result I’ve been holding back from him quite a bit and not getting so invested. He lives with flatmates and I have stayed there for quite a few consecutive nights, so I’m not sure he’s got a full on girlfriend but something is off.

i got a phone call off an unknown number with a woman shouting on the other end, asking who I was. She didn’t mention anything about him but she sounded upset and rang me back 4 times.

I told him (didn’t hint that I thought it was about him) and he said “did she say my name?” When I said she didn’t, but did he know anyone he’d upset that would do this, he said “if she didn’t say my name I’m not going to tell you that, we’d be having a totally different conversation if she said my name”

Ive decided to end things but he is calling me crazy - have I put 2 and 2 together and got 5?? Or is this fishy?

Next!

Throw this one back OP.

He's not being straight with you at this very early stage.

That is a really weird thing to say. Why the heck would it make a difference if she'd mentioned his name?! He sounds like a right dodgy fucker if he's being that elusive. Your instincts sound spot on.

That’s what I thought… it’s like he’s saying yeah i know who it is, but I’m not talking about it because it’s not been definitely linked to me

I think you are doing the right thing, but it might have been more enlightening if you had said she did say his name just to see what his reaction was. Not that it matters now.

Can you ring her back and ask?

The number was unknown :(

This level of drama so early on is a huge red flag OP.

Defo the right decision op. Sounds like his mother woman has found your number on his phone

Anyone who calls you crazy for bringing up a very reasonable point is a no go. Whether it turns out that there is a wife/ girlfriend or not.
I bet all of his exes were 'crazy!' when he tells it.

Oh come on.

I’d laugh in his face and say yeaaah totally crazy me! Lucky you with your escape! I’m so sad to be missing out on such a clearly honest and fantastic person 🤣🤣

And just walk away. Honestly that’s laughable. Cheaty little scrote.

I bet his other GF doesn’t know your name and your saved under something else and he knows that. Hence why he said did she say my name - trying to prove it’s not about him when obv it is! Trust your gut which you are doing

You've definitely done the right thing. His response to that situation is so weird. My interpretation is he's basically admitted he knows who it is, but you can't prove it's linked to him so he's not telling you.

Him calling you crazy for ending things just confirms you've done the right thing. Definitely dodged a bullet there!

peoples ability to lie so much makes me wanna stay single for the rest of my life 😂