to think my MIL may show some interest in her only grandchild!

[lucy1001]

I have a 6 month old DS and since he as been born my MIL has been extremely difficult.
I stayed in hospital for one night when he was born she left messages and called my DH on our way to find out what the problem was with me and why i had not been home sooner. She asked to come round to see DS that day. We agreed she then said they would arrive arouind 8:30 to 9pm (they only live 30 minutes away!) My DH said that this was too late could they come earlier? She said no and DH said that they would have to wait to the next day. MIL said she would ring to let us know when she was leaving in the morning. Dh told her no that she should ring and see what time was best. she still tried to ring in the morning and tell what time she was leaving. When DH said we were waiting for the MW and she would had to come afterwards she said she may come some other time and hung up on him. Dh rang the next day and she said she was too busy and waited 2 weeks to see him.
Since then she refers to him as baby and has made comments about not being that bothered about seeing him, has made very little effort to visit us. she has also made many comments such as on the odd occasion she decided to hold him telling Ds that you Daddy does not like me or is not interested in me since you were born and how he does not look DHs son stc.
Dh has tried talking to her but this seems to do little good.
Sorry it is another long MIl post I just needed to vent !

she sounds as though her nose has been put out of joint. ignore her childish behaviour.

xxx

She's acting like a spoilt child. She should grow up, she'll never get this time back with your DS.

I have given up on trying tochange her. It has just got to the pointe where I find it difficult to look at her and talk to her. Never mind as you say its her loss!

I have given up on trying tochange her. It has just got to the pointe where I find it difficult to look at her and talk to her. Never mind as you say its her loss!

I have given up on trying tochange her. It has just got to the pointe where I find it difficult to look at her and talk to her. Never mind as you say its her loss!

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what a silly woman. try and ignore her childish behaviour she sounds like she has had her nose put out of joint. poor you, just what you don't need

fwiw, my mother in law couldn't care less about our 2 dcs she has seen ds once when he was a few days old (he is now nearly 4) and she has never seen dd (14 months). she rarely rings maybe oncde every few months and the kids don't get christmas or birthday cards from her, let alone a present.

in fact i spoke to her the opther day and she couldn't eben remember dd's name

it's her loss tho. my dc don't even know they have another set of grandparents. granny and grandad are my parents, and they have a lovely relationship with them.
it's her that's missing out. very tho.

have you and dh always had a difficult relationship with her, it sounds like it from the conversations your dh has had with her. Perhaps she was initially excited to see ds, but feels put out that she's had to kind of make an appointment. I suppose it's also different when it's not your mum, I know I wouldn't mind mine coming round even if the midwife was coming and neither would she care, but it does depend on the relationship you had with her before. Speaking through 'the baby' does seem a bit pointless and insinuating that she is not dh's is just disgraceful.

She's had her nose put out of joint.

Don't chase her. Make no effort because she's thriving on the attention she's getting. In time she'll probably come round and hopefully realise what a fool she's been.

riven

lucy1001 - your MIL clearly doesn't like being told what to do and is responding in an immature manner by refusing to see a baby that doesn't know or care. She is only hurting herself.

Trust me when I say you don't know how lucky you have it.. my monster in law swooped into my life when ds was only 2 weeks old and wreaked havoc.. so much so that she was a serious contribution to the breakdown of my marriage... it might be a blessing

Thanks for all your advice,beautifuldays your MIL sounds worse than mine!
chunkychips my MIL likes everything to be her way. I am not very close to her but have always tried to make an effort for Dh. I think part of the problem is she worships dh and feels she has lost him, unfortunately she does not want to enjoy seeing him be a father To be honest I did not want her there when the midwife was there I just wanted her to wait until afterwards as is she is there sge never gives you any space.
Weegle - I agree exactklly with what your saying thank you for reassuring me

btw the way riven thats awful

MIL's are generally the root of all evil. DH and I both had dr appts today - I was put on anti depressants for PND and DH had slightly raised blood pressure. When he told his mother she went on a rant about how I was making him do too much and that I should look after dd all the time so he doesn't get stressed.

I've made a real effort to include her but it's still not good enough although I generally have a reasonable relationship with her. Your MIL is acting like a spoilt kid, she'll come round when she realises she's missing out for no good reason.