To find this question annoying on dating apps?

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I've had a couple of men ask me very early on how I'm finding online dating/how it's going.
This is before I've even arranged a date and in like the 2nd/3rd message.
I don't know why but it annoys me, it's none of their business and they're likely trying to fish for info.
AIBU to be put off by it?
Also when they ask 'what brings you here then ' when you've stated it clearly on your profile..

People are trying to make conversation, nothing more.
It's difficult to chat to a stranger so you find a common ground (online dating) and go from there.

Most guys I’ve met have asked how I’m finding it and I’ve just taken it as a conversation starter. We’ve usually had a laugh about online dating stories and it’s broken the ice.

Unfortunately my experience is also that most men don’t read the profile tho.

What do you ask them?

Yes they are "trying to fish for info". That's what people do when they're trying to get to know each other.

Them: How are you?
You: I'm not telling you. Why do you want to know anyway? I'm not giving you my bank account number.

Technically nothing is any of their business, it’s called getting to know someone and making conversation.

"Fish for info"

Well yes. That's generally how online dating works, you ask about the other person.

It's a very normal question. And a very normal answer would be "I joined about two months ago, had a couple of dates but wasn't feeling the chemistry on either. And you?"

Why is that so annoying?

what else are they supposed to say? How about some dick?

Seriously? Are people not allowed ask questions any more? It's making conversation!

YABU.

Conversation starter…don’t be mean…

It's literally called conversation!

What kind of questions would you prefer them asking then?

I'd say it's 50:50. Absolutely, as others have said, it's a common ground thing... but it's also a gauge of promiscuity.

It's subtle, nowhere near as overt as body count, but it is partly asked to see whether you've been on a lot of dates, how fussy you are, how 'easy' you are, etc.

Phrases like "just out of a LTR, just signed up, been on two dates so far" are generally seen as safe... "saying stuff like "I'm looking for the one, I've probably been on 2-3 dates a week but haven't found anyone" either make you seem like you're after free stuff, or 'easy'.

It's a testing the water question for guys...

It be a: " yeh it's first time for me... I really liked xzy on your profile. How many times a week do you train as a body builder?"
Easily deflected and onto something else!

Looks like OP has a problem communicating herself lol

Finally, someone gets it!
Honestly there's so much more conversation they could make than that.

Even if they are gauging your promiscuity, then what's wrong with that?