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AIBU?

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I know i am, but cant help feeling so down

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loopylou6 · 10/04/2008 16:44

Dh has been working LOADS recently, i know hes only doing it to pay for our couch (which have to pay for by july or it will be financed) Im so fed up with things, i feel almost worthless, all i do is keep the hosue clean and look after 2 demanding kids, every day i get up and look around at the huge pile of jobs i have to do and to be perfectly honesti just cant be bothered anymore, i feel so downtrodden (gawd i can almost hear the violins )
I dont get to do anything exciting and i dont get a minute to myself. I was looking on facebook today, well looking at friends profiles really, and i am ashamed to admit i felt a bit at all they have achieved. Yes i know i chose to have kids early and i do have my 2nd (and last) child starting school in september so maybe doors will open for me then?
Thing is though, i almost resent DH for going off and working all the time, cant believe im going to admit this, but this is how twisted and bitter i am, i really hate it when he has his apprentices working with him coz he comes home telling me how much of a laugh he had and i hate it, i suppose your all gonna think im a weirdo now (u wouldnt be wrong ) Its not that i dont want DH to have fun, but i dont see why i should spend my days struggling when hes having fun IYSWIM?
So am i a cow? Should mention DH doesnt do anything away from home, when hes not working hes with me, reading this back i can see IAB totally U but i cant help the way i feel

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scorpio1 · 10/04/2008 16:47

things will get loads better when your youngest starts school. Could you do a course? Opened up worlds for me...or a PT job?

IKWYM about feeling he is having fun at work and you're stuck at home, think thats quite common amongst SAHM's.

FWIW i dont think you are a weirdo, just sounding tired.

loopylou6 · 10/04/2008 16:49

Thanks scorpio I am doing lots of courses at the moment, i have forensics, maths, clait and have just passed a first aid course, maybe i have bitten off more than i could chew.

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MrsMattie · 10/04/2008 16:49

YANBU to feel the way you do. You sound bored and lonely and fed up. Have you thought about what you would like to do when your youngest starts school? perhaps you could go back to work prt-time, or to study? Definitely sounds like you are ready for a bit of a life outside of your home and family. Get your DH on board, rather than bottling it all up and letting yourself slip into being resentful towards him. tell him how you feel, and maybe he can help you come up with some ideas to improve things in the future?

2point4kids · 10/04/2008 16:49

If your eldest is at school and your youngest is about to start school then why dont you start having a think/look around for jobs/courses to make you feel happier...
its always easier to cope when theres something new on the horizon!

loopylou6 · 10/04/2008 16:55

MM you summed it up spot on there, thinking about it thats exactly how i feel, and yes i agree i am SOOOO ready to do something just for me. 2.4K i have been looking on the jobcenter just to see what i could do with myself when the time comes, but it doesnt stop me from feeling crappy now IYSWIM.
Ive also been drinking far to much wine of a night because it makes me feel different then i do in the day time, i feel happier and relaxed, but then i wake up with a hangover and everything seems worse. Think im a lost cause LOL

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