My boyfriend and I were together for 18 months. We are in our early 30s.
He has lied to me a few times. Some big, some inconsequential lies. He promised he would stop a few months back but didn't...
Last straw was he has been telling me that he was going to the office but was actually home. I asked him a couple of times if he's home because it was obvious but he refused. I wouldn't care either way or where he was but he chose to lie. Yesterday I drove to his at home lunch time and he was there despite telling me he's in the office and faking a phone call from his car saying he came to Tesco's to get lunch...
No idea why he'd do that. I'm not a controlling person, but even if I were it's no excuse to constantly lie.
He said that as he was supposed to go to the office and didn't feel motivated to do so, he felt like a failure and lied about it. I told him I'd never judge him for that and he said he knew, he just felt shameful.
I broke up with him yesterday after catching him quite literally red handed. I also hate the person I feel this relationship's turned me into. This morning he phoned me to say he arranged therapy for Monday. He was crying so hard saying he doesn't want to lose me and will do everything to change his lying habit.
I was quite adamant that we're through but earlier I had a chat with his mum where she almost begged me to give it another chance - made me think, AIBU to not consider giving this another try even if he's getting professional help?