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To report ex friend who looked at my medical files?

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LadyInRainbow · 04/07/2024 11:09

Over a year ago a friend told me she’d looked at my medical files, because “she wanted to see what was happening” with an issue I was dealing with, I think she thought she was being helpful and it was a shared care issue that also impacted her. I was stunned at the time and asked her not to do it again. I knew she may have need to look at a certain area of my files due to her job in screening and tracking but she had no need to look at this and I told her I was unhappy at the time.

Anyway long story short this friend has now back stabbed me and made up various stories about me.

Would I be unreasonable to make sure she is blocked from viewing my files again, there’s no need for her to access them as the issue to do with her department is long past & while I brushed it off before when I thought she was was a friend her having access now makes me very uncomfortable.

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Dinkydo12 · 09/07/2024 10:30

People are given restricted access to your medical information. A lay person would not be given any permission without your say so. This us a stackable offence. Even consultants and hospital doctors need your permission. You need to report this total breech.

Mooandmae · 09/07/2024 15:02

This absolutely needs to be reported. You should have done this at the time and I honestly don't understand why you didn't. I work in a field with access to lots and lots of privileged data for probably everyone in the UK and we are taught it is sacred and accessing data like this is rightfully treated as gross misconduct. It is drummed into everyone from day 1.

I don't like your reasoning as to why you are thinking of reporting her now but for me this would be a black and white issue. To look and then comment to you about it is crazy and shows either a considerable lack of understanding or a massive lack of judgement which only raises more alarm bells with this individual as if she has done this to you there is a chance she's has either done this or is capable of doing to others. All of us deserve to know that data stored about us is safe and secure.

Tookindformyowngood · 10/07/2024 15:43

I fell out with my daughter 6 years ago.We were very close infection like sisters. I met a lovely guy who is now my partner.My daughter was fine with it until he moved in.She became very vocal and eventually she stopped talking to us.Since then I have had a TIA,Broken ankle, blue lighted to hospital and no contact was made.I was at the hospital one day going to see my consultant and she is a nurse there and passed me shoulder ti shoulder.Now she wants to make contact with me but I am very unsure regarding this.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:43

You should have ideally reported her when you first found out but you are the victim here and it takes time for some victims to realise the true nature of the crime and report it so go ahead.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:43

Edingril · 04/07/2024 11:22

If she had no right to your file originally then it should have been reported then not 'she is a big meanie now so I am so going to get her into trouble'

OP is a victim and should be treated as such

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:45

Shittification · 04/07/2024 11:14

Why on earth didn't you report her a year ago?

Classic victim blaming..

DungareesAndTrombones · 10/07/2024 17:09

Coatsoff42 · 05/07/2024 09:59

I work in the NHS and there’s no warnings. It’s all down to your own personal standards of conduct.
Once in the hospital I worked in, a celebrity came into A&E and everyone who looked at his notes without justification was sacked. It’s easy to trace and there’s no excuse.

Where I work there are warnings, and it logs who has looked at people's files. As it rightly should.

Report her OP. I work in the NHS and would be sacked if I did this.

Shittification · 10/07/2024 17:56

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:45

Classic victim blaming..

No it isn't.

It's a simple question.

OP wasn't bothered enough to report it at the time and didn't even consider that her "friend" might also be doing it to other people.

Now that OP has been "back-stabbed" she wants something done.

crockofshite · 10/07/2024 18:51

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:45

Classic victim blaming..

It's not the victims fault someone illegally accessed their records.

However Victim is responsible for reporting it if she knew about it.

It's a good question, why didn't victim report it earlier?

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 18:59

crockofshite · 10/07/2024 18:51

It's not the victims fault someone illegally accessed their records.

However Victim is responsible for reporting it if she knew about it.

It's a good question, why didn't victim report it earlier?

She didn't realise it was an issue earlier

crockofshite · 10/07/2024 19:15

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 18:59

She didn't realise it was an issue earlier

Ah, ok , well it's a sackable offence and could also result in legal proceedings. It's absolutely despicable of the person who did this and they would have known the consequences.

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